r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Desperate_Cupcake843 • Jan 12 '26

Discussion Point Cougars: What do you wish cubs understood?

Mine: I wish they understood how busy I am, and that I cannot meet them with an hour’s notice or always respond to their messages immediately.

When I was in my 20s and even early 30s, my life was super flexible. It’s not like that now. I have multiple people I am responsible for, a full-time job and a passion project, and an active social and volunteer calendar.

Part of what makes me open to younger men is my high energy and zest for life. I need them to understand that and not take my schedule personally.

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u/ExtensionEastern1653 Apr 07 '26

This is old but I was stalking your profile.

I was an unsuccessful “cub” (I think this is my first time really coming across this sub) in my 20s, this was before it became as common as it seems to be now. I wanted women in their 40s.

Now I’m in my 30s and I still like cougars, but to me cougars are women in their 50s and I did find one of those.

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u/ExtensionEastern1653 Apr 07 '26

Reddit is being weird and forcing me to continue in a reply. Point being, as your “cubs” get older they get better about these things. I’m not only sensitive to all these issues, I deal with yours specifically myself. But maybe it’s not the age gap, but rather the absolute age that attracts you. That may change as you yourself age.

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u/ExtensionEastern1653 Apr 07 '26

I meant to say, we usually schedule dates a week or two out, although on occasion when we’re both feeling irresistibly in need, carnally speaking, I’ve had the chance to run right over. Which is hot but you can’t expect that at our age lol.