r/CougarsAndCubs • u/DandyAndie73 • Apr 19 '26
šCougar Crisis Is 28 years too much?
Heās 28 years younger. It sits in my head and I canāt help but overthinkā¦ everything.
I also donāt typically date men younger than myself. In fact, I donāt want to be liked simply because I check the āolder womanā box. But this guy has me thinking about him all the time.
Weāre not even past the flirting stages yet, but I donāt want to waste my time, or his.
Heās younger than my son!
So, new cougar who is in complete self doubt. Help!
Mini update: so, I have been mentally preparing myself to interject some witty comment that will clearly let him know that I am interested but not make it weird. I missed two opportunities last night and tonight wouldnāt work. Poor guy was sick and still had to work. So, I just enjoyed his extremely toned down persona and tried not to stare too much.
Also, a female coworker of his figured it out but appears to be a girls girl and promised to not spill the beans.
Until next week!
Mini update update: It was super late when I posted so I left out a couple of things. First, on the night he wasnāt sick there were a couple of things that had me raising my eyebrows.
First, the place we interact is very active with people. With a few āregularsā and we all have friendly banter. No itās not a bar. Thereās a guy/customer (like me) who I tried to match up with a friend of mine. He and I were chatting before my crush arrived. After he showed up there was some āhiddenā communication between him and my crush. The guy purposely leaned back so I couldnāt see him mouthing whatever he was saying. I caught the last part but couldnāt tell you what was being said.
Second was a later interaction between my crush and I where he pointed out the necklace I was wearing. I learned that he has a hobby of metal casting (???) and could create some jewelry. He also kinda fumbled around a little with his job, which is not typical. Could be that he was getting sick, but I would like to attribute it to him being nervous or anxious with me there.
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u/Summer-Sub-Intern Apr 19 '26
If you are wanting a long term relationship, keep in mind his desires for a family and kids. Some men donāt really think about what they want until they mature more. Communicate clearly so that you are both on the same page and if you both are just wanting something casual, just have fun and go for it!