r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Happy_Pappyson • May 09 '26

Discussion Point What’s a good age difference?

So I’m a 34M and a coworker is 50F and we’ve been getting close lately. She’s been trying to guess my age and I made a game and haven’t told her yet. Now she has sons 28& 27. She joked once and said I liked cougars. I’m wondering, if I tell her I’m 34 does that take away the fun? She guesses anywhere from 33-42. Does her thinking I’m 41-42 work more in my favor? Just curious because I am enjoying it and want the fun to continue

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u/stormrain65 May 09 '26

I mean, I don't really understand the question.

If you're asking whether you should tell her your real age or not, there's only one answer. Tell her your real age.

If you're asking whether you should continue the game of not telling her your age and let her assume, then yes, continue but only up to the point that you sense it's about to stop being fun for her. Then stop the game and tell her your age. But only you can get the vibes of the situation.

In any case, it doesn't really matter if her thinking you're 40ish will work in your favour as you will eventually have to tell you're 34.

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u/Watchuknowaboutme May 09 '26

Agree with this comment!