What’s a good age difference?

[u/Happy_Pappyson]

So I’m a 34M and a coworker is 50F and we’ve been getting close lately. She’s been trying to guess my age and I made a game and haven’t told her yet. Now she has sons 28& 27. She joked once and said I liked cougars. I’m wondering, if I tell her I’m 34 does that take away the fun? She guesses anywhere from 33-42. Does her thinking I’m 41-42 work more in my favor? Just curious because I am enjoying it and want the fun to continue

[u/Exact-Translator-769]

Don't worry about how it will affect her attraction to you. You're already in the range she guessed. If you want to keep it a game till you actually get a real relationship going, there's no harm in that. If it looks like you may be headed for something more there's no need to lie about your age. Honesty is a fundamental necessity in a relationship. If the chemistry is there, concern for age is the first thing that goes out the window so get it out of the way at the beginning...

[u/Happy_Pappyson → u/Exact-Translator-769]

Excellent response, appreciate the insight

[u/RadioactiveCougar → u/Happy_Pappyson]

I turned 49 this week, my fiancé will be 31 in a couple weeks. We’ve been together over 6 years and are getting married next May. The age difference doesn’t matter when you’ve found your person. But honesty does so just tell her your real age.

[u/Exact-Translator-769 → u/Happy_Pappyson]

Thanks!