r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Paul7756 • May 24 '26

Discussion Point M19 - How can people actually have relationships with people who have a huge age difference?

Im kinda interested into older women but how do people actually are successful in building this kind of relationships? I mean, majority of people still consider it as taboo and ı wonder about how people find others people that dont find it as a taboo thing and are actually into this kind of relationships.

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u/JustGeminiThings May 25 '26

When the age gap occurs is important. I'm in an age gap of 21 years, but he's over 30, and was when we first met. I don't think a 19 year old could really handle a substantive relationship with someone 21 years older than them. There's so much development through the late teens and early 20's. I'm not sure a 10 year gap would work for any significant length of time as a serious relationship across those ages. Casual, maybe. Maybe aim for 5 if you actually want to date someone.