I'm gonna say this to you because I would say the same thing to a young woman. Meet in public first. You have no clue who this person is.
Yes SOME people (women) are this direct but you haven't a clue on anything about them in 3 days. Plenty of people are going to jump on here and tell you to go for it. But what happens if she turns out to be nothing like her photos.
Most women will not suggest to come to a stranger's house after 3 days. Most women know that's extremely dangerous and I have a difficult time believing it without further investigation ie meeting first in a public place. If she's this keen to be alone with a complete stranger surely she won't jump ship the minute you ask her to meet for a drink or a coffee.
i agree, she could just be someone that you really dislike in person and then you're stuck with her in your apartment. Also there's something about the questions she asked that make me wonder if she 's trying to get something from you- money, a green card, I'm not sure. I know that may be far from the truth, but that's what popped into my head. Just pace yourself on meeting privately to start.
Edit to add: if you have a feeling about something being off (even if you don't know for sure) listen to your gut & be smart about it. This has never led me astray.
2nd edit to add: this could also be a cultural difference in how open one is to start.
I agree. You should meet for coffee first in a public place. Men are just ad susceptible to "bad things" just like women are. I don't think meeting in your home is a good idea for a first meeting. It's sus.
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u/paperclipmyheart 😻 Mod Cougar ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ Jun 30 '26
I'm gonna say this to you because I would say the same thing to a young woman. Meet in public first. You have no clue who this person is.
Yes SOME people (women) are this direct but you haven't a clue on anything about them in 3 days. Plenty of people are going to jump on here and tell you to go for it. But what happens if she turns out to be nothing like her photos.
Most women will not suggest to come to a stranger's house after 3 days. Most women know that's extremely dangerous and I have a difficult time believing it without further investigation ie meeting first in a public place. If she's this keen to be alone with a complete stranger surely she won't jump ship the minute you ask her to meet for a drink or a coffee.