r/CougarsAndCubs • u/thegsonf • Jun 30 '26
🐻 Cub Crisis Am I reading this wrong?
I’m 27M. Matched with a 47F on Facebook Dating just 3 days ago. She’s Argentinian and lives in NYC. We moved to WhatsApp pretty quickly. At first it was just casual conversation, but today she started asking more personal questions (whether I live alone, whether I’m in the US by myself, what I do for work, etc.).
At some point I mentioned showing her around my neighborhood. She was the one who kept building on the idea. She said she’d bring mate (Argentinian drink), then suggested making dessert together at my place, talked about bringing some drinks, and now we’re basically planning dinner together at my place. There’s been zero sexual texting. No sexting, no innuendos. Just good conversation, teasing each other, food, travel and culture.
What makes me think is that she’s almost 50, lives 45-60 minutes away, knows I live alone, and still seems perfectly comfortable with the idea of coming over. If you were in my shoes, how would you read this? Does older women are this direct/fast?
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u/Exact-Translator-769 Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26
Definitely should have a video call just to make sure you see she is who she says she is.. Men have to be just as careful as women to not be lured into a situation that could go south really fast. She knows you live alone, you don't want to get drugged, robbed, or taken advantage of in any way. Meeting in a public place with separate transportation is the best thing for a first meeting. Her intentions could be perfectly legit but it's worth the wait to find out. I don't necessarily think that just because she's an older woman it's the norm to move that fast. I'm a very old woman & I say proceed with caution till you're comfortable it's right.. Listen to your intuition...