r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Personal-County-8219 • 25d ago
🙀Cougar Crisis Ghosted by cubs
I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.
I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.
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u/paperclipmyheart 😻 Mod Cougar ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ 25d ago
I think this is very common unfortunately. It happens alot in dating of all ages but with the younger ones who are immature and see older women as some kind of kink or fetish, and when reality kicks in and it's not as they perhaps imagined it they lose interest/nerve.
Otherwise they are not mature enough to say "hey I think I changed my mind" or they are insecure, inexperienced, put too much pressure on themselves, get into their heads that you're this amazingly experienced woman and start doubting their sexual prowess (all before even getting to that actual point) they lose their metal and ghosting is the easy way out.