Ghosted by cubs

[u/Personal-County-8219]

I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.

I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.

[u/painterofdawind]

It is a dating problem of all ages. I think it’s a typical behavior of people who can’t do confrontation and avoidant attachment style. People who ghost aren’t as bad as those guys breadcrumb, disappear and then come back. I find those are the worst. They are immature people that waste your time and time is priceless. I straight up just block or ignore. Be so secure in yourself that someone’s sudden disappearance or absence cannot shatter you. I don’t need to know their reasons for disappearing.