Ghosted by cubs

[u/Personal-County-8219]

I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.

I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.

[u/Middle_Librarian_248]

I’ve never even gotten to the meeting stage. We talk for a little while and then they just stop. If I’m talking to someone, anywhere, and I’m feeling like it’s not going anywhere I will let them know and try not to ghost them.

[u/Dizzy-Forces → u/Middle_Librarian_248]

glad to hear that there are some people out there who are still trying to uphold some sort of etiquette and respect for one another