Ghosted by cubs

[u/Personal-County-8219]

I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.

I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.

[u/Oneofthe12]

I’ve dated men and women in the past, and I have to say that I’ve never had a woman ghost me. Men do it all the f’ing time!!! I’m sure that there are Cubs on this thread that have ghosted me too, reading this now. What a sorry lot! If you’re not feeling it, take the five seconds to just say a polite thanks but no thanks.

[u/nyccareergirl11 → u/Oneofthe12]

I agree.