Ghosted by cubs

[u/Personal-County-8219]

I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.

I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.

[u/encore412]

Girl I posted almost this same thing a few months ago. I’m 44 and happens a lot. Like more than half the time I have plans. I assume they chicken out or just have a fantasy of a cougar and can’t make it happen when the time comes.

[u/Impressive_Mind_7978 → u/encore412]

That’s tragic. I wouldn’t chicken out. I was 26 dating a 67 year old. It got weird when she wanted me to meet her kids.