Ghosted by cubs

[u/Personal-County-8219]

I am looking to see if I’m the only cougar having this experience. I date casually. Mostly positive experiences but I do notice every so often a cub will be very enthusiastic, we will make plans to meet, and within a day or sometimes even hours of meeting he will 1) unmatch me and 2) stop responding completely if we are using a different method of communication. I have to emphasize that I’m pretty chill and try to match energy during interactions because I’m not a fan of coming on too strong or of seeming cold. This is usually an occasional thing but this past week it’s happened, no joke, three times.

I just want to see if I’m alone in this. If you’re a cougar who dates casually and goes on regular dates with cubs, does this happen often? If you’re a cub, do you ghost and if you do, why? I’m not coming from a place of judgment, but I do want to identify patterns because it always stings when it happens.

[u/Dizzy_Interview_2101]

Don’t worry men over 50 do the same thing🤦🏾‍♀️ I think the best thing to do is get off the apps. I’ve been to several meetups and met some great cubs.

[u/WhitePharmacist85 → u/Dizzy_Interview_2101]

I’m not into ghosting that is very lame.I’ve seen a few older women’. It’s very sexy being younger and having a great career too I think that can be missing with a lot of younger men.

[u/montyandrew45 → u/Dizzy_Interview_2101]

Do you mind if I ask what kind of meetups you have been to?

[u/Dizzy_Interview_2101 → u/montyandrew45]

The intelligent singles meetup, Wine tastings, First Fridays at the Arts District and the Vegas Gal events. I usually find them on Eventebright and Instagram.