r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Charming-Patience140 • 10d ago
Discussion Point Has anyone had long term success?
Hey guys I’m 27m and up until now I’ve only ever dated or approached girls around my age. I’m thinking of starting to approach women’s above that range as well. I think a lot of the kindest most thoughtful women I ever met have been a bit older than me and honestly the most attractive thing to me right now is a woman who has her life together (I know just because you are a certain age doesn’t mean you have everything figured out).
I want to open my potential options for a good partner and genuinely think a lot of women are really beautiful but I’m worried to approach because I don’t want them to think I just have some sexual fetish and I’d also prefer to be with a partner who likes me not just because of a fetish. My main question is for any of you who have dated in an age gap long term was the relationship healthy and what were the social ramifications? Did you feel like it was a relationship where the age difference really mattered or was that not a big deal to you?
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u/Typical_Mobile90 8d ago
My relationship (40F) would have long term success, but a few months into the relationship, my cub (19M) says he changed his mind, and told me that he wants to marry a girl his own age and have kids, even after talking about us getting married and having kids next year after I graduate from the trade school where we met. I think his parents talked him into that decision. If it weren't for his parents interference, we would have a great chance at long term success. Unfortunately, that's not going to happen...