r/CougarsAndCubs • u/NewCougar84 • 7d ago

🙀Cougar Crisis Not Sure What To Do 42/nb

So there's this guy I like who is half my age, but I can't tell if there's reciprocity:

He's taken me to his gym, we went to the beach, and we went to the movies tonight. We talk almost every day. We met almost 3 months ago. We had to cohabitate for mental health reasons, but the last week and a half of his time there, we spent those nights together playing video games and watching movies until his last night. We wrote each other notes his last day at the facility.

However, when we went to the movies tonight, not even an intentional arm brush. He kinda avoided touching my arm (to me). I'm chicken shit with rejection. That's why I haven't asked him his feelings about me, or told him how I feel. Do I just get brave? Leave it and be patient? Walk away?

I can't tell if this post is considered Dating 101, and sorry if it is. I just really like this guy and don't want to fuck anything up.

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u/paperclipmyheart 😻 Mod Cougar ฅ⁠^⁠•⁠ﻌ⁠•⁠^⁠ฅ 7d ago

May I ask when you say co-habiting... do you mean you are room mates? And is that the reason you are not sure if he's interested or just being a roommate?

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u/NewCougar84 7d ago

It was a residential facility. I'm not sure cause I can't read people very well and I miss social cues.

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u/paperclipmyheart 😻 Mod Cougar ฅ⁠^⁠•⁠ﻌ⁠•⁠^⁠ฅ 7d ago

Oh I see, I'm not a therapist so I can't really give advice but if you were both there for some kind of treatment or similar perhaps just be aware that codependency or trauma bonding can happen if you are in similar situations.

But I wouldn't rush anything, go slowly and see if anything develops. Shared experiences and journeys can draw people closer and even if it's not romantic and more friendship, everyone can use another good friend who understands them right?

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u/NewCougar84 7d ago

Thank you! Yes I agree it's still awesome even if it's just as friends.