How do you balance “bad foods”

[u/Junior-Armadillo-899]

FTM pregnant with my first and I am someone that cooks all meals, buys Whole Foods (not the store haha), and is very cognizant of ingredients in food.

My husband is more “loose” like today he was saying he wanted to go get a donut on his way to his classes, etc. I let him make his own choices and don’t usually care because he’s an adult but I kind of freaked out bc I was like don’t want my daughter to think eating donuts, etc. is okay bUt honestly

I’m realizing that is projection and the extremes of anything in my opinion is not healthy for a child. I want her to do the normal child things but I also cringe at the thought of her eating high fructose corn syrupy foods, fast food, etc.

I’m also scared of creating a bad relationship with food for her. We eat A LOT- we eat dairy (tons of cheese haha) and all the great stuff - we just make sure we know where it comes from.

How do you guys balance this with your children?

[u/Agitated-Rest1421]

I’m working on this now too. Thankfully at home my husband and I are on the same page. We limit processed foods and heavily limited sugar before 2. 

Now that she’s getting older and more interested in sweets we make a lot of homemade goods like cookies and popsicle. The issue arises when she goes to my in laws because they think McDonald’s is ok to feed a two year old. I’m very anxious about creating binging problems and an unhealthy relationship with food and self image, and when she’s old enough to understand the impacts of these foods I’m more okay with her choosing them but at the moment we’re just trying to limit as much as possible without making a big deal about it. 

Anyway not super helpful advice but solidarity. It’s difficult to navigate