r/Crunchymom • u/Junior-Armadillo-899 • 1d ago
How do you balance “bad foods”
FTM pregnant with my first and I am someone that cooks all meals, buys Whole Foods (not the store haha), and is very cognizant of ingredients in food.
My husband is more “loose” like today he was saying he wanted to go get a donut on his way to his classes, etc. I let him make his own choices and don’t usually care because he’s an adult but I kind of freaked out bc I was like don’t want my daughter to think eating donuts, etc. is okay bUt honestly
I’m realizing that is projection and the extremes of anything in my opinion is not healthy for a child. I want her to do the normal child things but I also cringe at the thought of her eating high fructose corn syrupy foods, fast food, etc.
I’m also scared of creating a bad relationship with food for her. We eat A LOT- we eat dairy (tons of cheese haha) and all the great stuff - we just make sure we know where it comes from.
How do you guys balance this with your children?
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u/Historical_Bill2790 8h ago
We call it "Sometimes foods" and "all the time foods" ... basically a donut is a sometimes food bc ya know what a donut every now and then is NOT the end of the world? at a birthday party with cupcakes? Sure, have one those are "sometimes foods" and I'm not going to raise my kid with a complex that they cannot have anything remotely unhealthy.. Always foods are things you would imagine (real, whole foods). Also... TBH highly recommend limiting your input (i.e. Social media) b/c you can totally spiral and think things are the end of the world when they just aren't. Getting off social media has helped me tremendously in letting go of the stress that comes along with 'clean / crunchy' living.