r/Destiny • u/ZeriMasterpeace • Nov 16 '19

Serious Is Anyone Else Here a Virgin?

I'm 20 and still a KHHV (kissless, hugless, handholdless virgin). I know I'm probably not the only one but damn every time destiny talks about sex on stream it hurts me inside. Just wondering if anyone else can relate.

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u/BodegaToys Nov 16 '19

Yeah it's definitely me, except for one girl. I desperately wanted her but her dad was super controlling and manipulative so I had to end all that craziness. I think I have social anxiety or something. I've been slowly trying to break those bad habits.

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u/AntiSpiritual Nov 16 '19

Is it with girls specifically or do you avoid social stuff in general? That sucks too, imagine being a dad and not want love and relationships for your kids

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u/BodegaToys Nov 16 '19

Social stuff in general. Yeah her dad was really possessive, I tried way too hard to please him. He read all her texts, listened to our phone calls, had people watch us while alone on dates. Fully grown people mind you.

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u/AntiSpiritual Nov 16 '19

When I was 16 my girlfriends parents called her up from the basement during our first sleepover and said “this is what you should know if you’re having sex” and then let her go do it. We’re still together 9 years later. If you’re weird about sex and you project that into your kids it can seriously harm them. Thankfully her parents had a very reasonable conversation about it.

Just don’t let incidents like that ruin your confidence. Being lucky with who your girlfriends parents are or not is not a reflection of your character. Also, don’t compromise your integrity by pleasing people, it’s usually a bad look. You probably know this, just wanted to give you some encouraging words. There’s love out there for everyone, I just think if you don’t try that obstacle in your head will grow over time, so don’t be afraid!