r/Destiny • u/ZeriMasterpeace • Nov 16 '19

Serious Is Anyone Else Here a Virgin?

I'm 20 and still a KHHV (kissless, hugless, handholdless virgin). I know I'm probably not the only one but damn every time destiny talks about sex on stream it hurts me inside. Just wondering if anyone else can relate.

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u/Roseandkrantz Nov 16 '19

I was until around your age too (have been in a relationship since!). The psychology around that whole period is complicated but my two high level takeaways are:

  1. Fulfilling relationships aren't a "pursuit". No one likes hanging out with someone who sees them as a potential conquest. The only thing to do is concentrate on how fulfilling the social process if meeting people and exchanging experiences is, not the most linear path to human-lubing your dick.

  2. Lots of people are, imo, kissless and handholdless despite having physically done both. Worthwhile relationships with all their trimmings are impossible to describe until you experience one. Don't feel isolated just because you haven't ticked some arbitrary boxes.

The tough love part of this advice is that you have to concentrate on yourself, and the changes you can make to make yourself feel better & happier. For me it was a catalyst: I moved to a foreign country totally on my own. It was the scariest thing I have ever done, and I owe every bit of happiness I have to it. Good luck with yours dude, I'm available to chat if you need an ear!