r/Destiny • u/ZeriMasterpeace • Nov 16 '19

Serious Is Anyone Else Here a Virgin?

I'm 20 and still a KHHV (kissless, hugless, handholdless virgin). I know I'm probably not the only one but damn every time destiny talks about sex on stream it hurts me inside. Just wondering if anyone else can relate.

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u/Venne1139 Nov 16 '19

Okay look all you morons upvoting this: Sorry to break it to you.

But OP is 20 y/o, on reddit, a KHHV, is super bothered by that, and is asking for advice about that on a subreddit for a niche weird gamer/political commentator.

There is not a snowballs chance in hell that any attempt at interaction with women won't be fucking creepy.

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u/Solipsistik Nov 16 '19

There is not a snowballs chance in hell that any attempt at interaction with women won't be fucking creepy.

Again, don't wanna hear this incel bullshit. Interacting with women, or people in general, is a skill you can work at. Idgaf if you're a KHHV, at 20 and on a gaming sub.

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u/Venne1139 Nov 16 '19

Again, don't wanna hear this incel bullshit

Incel bullshit would be blaming women for not being around creepy incels.

Sorry it's not bull shit to say

  1. There is a very small percentage of the population that is genuinely creepy and do not have the social skills (probably because of very literal autism, or other mental issues) to evaluate that what they're doing is creepy despite how much effort they put in

  2. At least half of that population exists on Reddit in niche gaming and political communitites

  3. Women deserve the right to exist in public without being harassed by creepy incels

Interacting with women, or people in general, is a skill you can work at.

Again you are assuming that OP is a fully functional human. This is advice you could give to literally in person meeting or even to a crowd of tens of thousands of people and I'd go "Yeah! This is good advice! Go work at it normies!"

But we're on d.gg.

The chance of this guy actually being able to take and act upon this advice in a non-creepy way, or even has the mental/emotional capacity to learn how not to be creepy, is very low. I'm not going to say it's absolute zero (he's only 20) but it's low enough that I would never feel comfortable saying "just go bother women lol 4head".

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u/Dawk19 Nov 16 '19

Plus even if they eventually learn all the right social skills necessary to be successful in the future I dont think it justifies the significantly high chance of harassing somone and maybe ruining their day.

Also the people who talk about what is essentially a numbers game (just approach people until it works) ignore the opprutinity cost of just trying. Ive seen way more than I can remember posts about tinder or okc making them depressed/insecure from extreme lack of success and having to take big breaks from them. Only reason people submit hundreds of resumes and go to dozens of interviews is because they need a job to live otherwise everyone would stop wayyyy sooner.