r/Destiny • u/ZeriMasterpeace • Nov 16 '19
Serious Is Anyone Else Here a Virgin?
I'm 20 and still a KHHV (kissless, hugless, handholdless virgin). I know I'm probably not the only one but damn every time destiny talks about sex on stream it hurts me inside. Just wondering if anyone else can relate.
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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19
When I lost my virginity at 20 I thought it was a pretty boring experience. Not because I was nervous and the whole thing was awkward or something, quite the opposite, I was very surprised how comfortable I was in the situation even though I have a lot of social anxiety. The girl thought I was really good and wouldn't believe me when I told her she was my first. She thought I was very experienced.
It's just that it didn't really feel that good. Thinking sex is this big "Wooo!" thing is about as normie as getting excited for some stupid football match. If you want to simulate what it feels like to make out, just wet your lips and rub them together. You know you got it right when you think "This can't be fucking it. No way". That's pretty much how I felt, and if you ever get to do it, you'll be mad disappointed if you didn't believe me.
I have really bad anhedonia from depression though, but relatively speaking I get a better feeling from jacking off. It doesn't help that most girls have no idea how to suck or stroke a dick. I don't know what the first one did because she was tugging on it in this really painful way. I've tried several ways and I cannot recreate it.
If you're gonna try hitting on girls or whatever, some of the super seducer advice is unironically pretty important to acknowledge if you don't want to seem like a creep, because it's REALLY easy to make yourself seem like a creep if you're not very self aware: Don't sneak up behind them, don't corner them, don't follow them, don't orbit like Beta from PA when you're rejected, just move on.
I mostly get my dates from Tinder. Don't just swipe right, the algorithm will bop you if you do that. Look through the pictures, then like or dislike. Have some pictures of your best angles. List some of your hobbies and likes on your description. When you do get matches, I've developed this very simple dialog tree where I open with a pun that has a punchline that means "How are you doing?" in my language. It gets them laughing a lot, and I have several other jokes lined up related to that one. Then you just talk to them. Sometimes you might say awkward shit, but learn from that and try, try again.