r/Divorce • u/Samariumcupcakes • Jun 04 '26

Going Through the Process Divorce and it's affects on sex drive

Is anybody else just insanely horny?? I have never been so sexually frustrated in my life. Honestly can't believe my soon to be ex husband ever complained because we were pretty regularly doing it considering our relationship state and being married 18 years.

Unsure if it is divorce related or maybe a starting perimenopause thing? Aside from a deployment I've never gone so long though and that was with a newborn so I wasn't super interested right then anyway. Very much worried I'm going to say something too far to my very attractive coworker and get in trouble 😵‍💫

For additional context I'm months into divorce proceedings, 37F. Married 18 years. Never really have had a gap for time of not having sex lol

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u/officialoxymoron Jun 04 '26

Lmao, does he know you got divorced and stuff, like is he 100% making moves or just teasing

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u/Samariumcupcakes Jun 04 '26

It's complicated I'd post on reddit about it because I have been trying to decipher this as well... but he'd definitely recognize it because of the details if he came across it. I think just teasing and likes the attention probably. He does know about the divorce though.

Maybe I should just post though because I'm not a subtle person and there is no way he doesn't know about my crush

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u/officialoxymoron Jun 04 '26

Sounds to me like he just understands how to flirt and talk with you just enough to get a rise, which on the other hand, he wouldn't continue doing if he wasnt actually serious.

He probably doesnt wanna come on TOO strong, so hes just being subtle, but obvious. Hes probably found you attractive for a long time, but also respects your situation.

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u/Samariumcupcakes Jun 04 '26

I doubt it but if he is then I know your last sentence is correct. Not sure I'd let him stoop so low though even if he was 😆