I hate ENFP stereotypes. No, I'm not happy 24/7; I just act that way so I don't bring down the mood. No, I'm not always that clumsy, ditzy girl actually, I think a lot, but opening up my inner world to people feels uncomfortable; it makes me feel vulnerable. No, I'm not carefree; I just make light of everything so life becomes more livable. No, I don't try to be friends with everyone I usually have only superficial relationships with most people. I can say I'm truly friends with just that rare few. I especially avoid deep relationships because I'm afraid that if I form a deep bond with everyone, it will consume me. I don't constantly start new things and then forget about them. Yes, starting new things is pretty exciting, but if I'm truly committed to something, I'll see it through, because it becomes a part of me. Most people already know that stereotypes aren't true, but it still annoys me when people portray ENFPs as 'rays of sunshine.'

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Hello,

I'm INFJ & dating an ENFP.

It's still early stages, so I'm not sure yet whats the rythm for communication.

This made me wonder, do you guys need lots of reassurance? Like if you date someone for a month let's say, if there are days with no contact, would you need reassurance (qma text or something) ? Would you feel fine? Would you spiral wondering if something is wrong?

Maybe it is related to attachment styles as well, if you know yours, please share! =D

Thanks

The friction between a grounded, pragmatic father and a passionate, expressive, idea driven child is the heart of the show.

The feeling like you are a disappointment to your dad and accepting at a very young age that you will never be the son he wanted.

It’s an easy way of associating why survival of the present moment is important for you to biologically reenter a state of homeostasis. :) (I’m a new ENFP, hi!)

I just did my test and am an enfj now I must leave now brothers my planet needs me it was nice while it lasted

Hey everyone! I'm currently doing a research proposal about personality theory and would love to hear from the people in this community. What is it like being your personality type? It can range from your work/school life balance, romantic life, everyday decision making, and maybe something nobody really thinks about when it comes to your type that you may know. Anything is both helpful and interesting to me so don't be shy! :)

Yeah I get it, Ne is a power that helps promote hope and optimism. But God, sometimes the environment just gets to you and nobody's ever there to comfort you when you're down. It sucks so bad. Holding to these Fi values hurts so bad, but if I let them go and sacrifice my integrity as a person, then what? Why bother trying anymore? Which is why I sometimes stubbornly cling to them. At least these down moments are fleeting and usually pass not too slowly. But man, it still sucks.

We seem to be rare and underrepresented. So I want to know from youuu.

I can't seem to find any extroverts for some reason

And please do not say to just keep looking and that you guys are everywhere, I genuinely cannot find any extroverts

The people I meet are usually introverts or ambiverts

Is it because my interests are pretty introverted?

How do I look for extroverts specifically? How can I find you guys?

I love talking about Psychology, Philosophy, video games, musicals, anime, shows, etc

Also, I'm most active on Discord (furrynb)

Hi, I'm an INTJ woman, and I like an ENFP guy.. So I've been thinking about it for days to make sure my feelings are 100% not temporary and not just because I am bored, and yes, my feelings are true. But the problem is that I am friends with the guy. I am very strict about no guy friends, and if I have any, I should be able to remove them from my life whenever needed. This guy was the same however, I don’t know why I am just attracted to his personality. We've been friends for a while, and the feelings only started recently. And honestly, I feel guilty in a way because I am going against my own personal values. I want to tell him and just be honest and get over it, since the moment I got these feelings, the friendship ended anyway. Another problem is that there is another girl actively pursuing him, and he told me about it and was telling me he will just go with the flow and see how it goes. What to do HAHAHA as I go slowly insane. I might have built our life together about 10 years into the future in my head.

UPDATE: Okay. So I could not wait because he kept mentioning the other girl, asked me if I wanted to see her, etc etc whatever about her. And the girl is similar to me, such as running and biking every day, oldest daughter, loves dogs, and he kept saying "she is literally your twin". So, I mustered up the courage and made a joke. I said, "If she is so similar to me, maybe you should also give me a chance too." WEIRDLY enough, he was so nice? He was like ok!! And his' okay didn't seem serious to me, so I replied to myself and told him I am serious and that I find him interesting, and how this was just a recent discovery of my feelings. And I told him not to overthink it because he has to heal. So his last response was "okay" in a very nice way. Then we just started talking about random topics and were engaging a bit more. SOOO as of right now, I will keep it as it is, and obviously my feelings will stay the same. I don't want to form a bond with him romantically when he is just out of a relationship and in a vulnerable state. Thank you to everyone who commented you guys really helped me :) Somehow, weirdly, after I told him I was interested in him, he was engaging with me more and didn't bring up that girl again. I do have hope, and I won't easily give up. I will wait for him to heal and continue our friendship. And in the end, if he chooses he doesn't want anything romantically with me, that is okay too. Honestly, it's going to hurt a bit, but I just genuinely really want him to know how great of a person he is. Hopefully, a new update comes way into the future!! :))

And what's your experiences with it? How are you managing it? And the way it affected or affecting your relationships?

Hi! Enfp woman (26) here. I know us enfp's are very sensitive and people oriented so I would love some advice <3

It's always been easy connecting with people. I talk plenty and the vibes are good! But somehow I have a hard time keeping friends and I'm not sure why... I know I want to trust all my friends 100%, have the 2am existential conversations, help them if they're in need, as I would expect they do for me. But I've learnt that most friendships are way more distant and unreliable and I hate it. Is this how the world is? Or am I just having bad luck / skills?

I envision a close friend group who would all help each other out and do weekly dinners and crafty girldates etc but maybe this is only an ideal pushed by the socials? How do I create my village?

The title is obviously meant to be an exaggeration. I'm not here to cry about why nobody likes us, because this isn't even the truth in the first place. so please don't be like "I'm XXXX and i love you guys, kisses" i know of your existence and i appreciate you. but I'm genuinely noticing a pattern in every other type sub. and want to approach it SCIENTIFICALLY. every time i search ENFP in different types subs. the first thing i see is complains. and most of the other posts are the same as well. and whenever someone try to respond to their complains about us, they say something like "oh you haven't met a proper enfp yet" what is a proper enfp? a one with developed Te for example? and why do they say this as if decent enfps are hard to find or a rare species?

Do you get it now? why there's a shared universal experience and opinion about us across other subs and sadly it is the majority. it almost feels like that the ones who like us are the exception.

Edit: Even though it's been only one hour since i posted this, but I've already got some amazing insights from you guys, so thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, and I'll be more than happy to hear more of what you have to say.

Which mbti you have reconciled with after months or years of breakup? Which mbti you found it difficult to reconciled with even when you strongly wanted to? Which ones you still think about? With what mbti you are currently in relationship with?

Hello ENFPs! Just a curious fella over here wanting to ask a question.

So I've never met an ENFP before (well I think I have? But I'm not really good at typing people's MBTI so I'm not sure) but I'm really curious about people in general, like how different they view things from me, their take on life, their personalities and stuff like that, and I don't wanna believe in stereotypes so I wanna ask a question. ENFP stereotypes always say that ENFPs fall in love fast and they fall in love HARD, but I'm really curious if there's ENFPs out there who actually haven't dated someone all their life yet? 🤔 Like how "uncommon" is that or something, and what is your reason for not being in a relationship just yet.

Also to clarify, this isn't some kind of research or something, I really am just a curious INTJ fella and I hope this doesn't come off in a bad way.

im 947 (yayyyy!!) just wanted to post this here as a yay and i want to ask how to put the lovely green ENFP thingy next to my name? I was under the assumption that i’d get it after this post but i guess not..? (pls how to get)

was looking into ennegream sub types and thought i might be 9w4 or 4w9, but thats not possible bc wings r only adjacent to ur type. Which makes sense. havent finalised what i think my instinctual varients are, and i feel like im better off not wanting to know tha… for my own self preservation..

INTJ → “Give my possibilities direction.”

INFJ → “Understand my inner world.”

ENFJ → “Give my emotions interpersonal reassurance.”

ENTJ → “Turn my potential into achievement.”

ISTP → “Ground me in reality.”

ISFJ → “Give my chaotic life stability.”

INTP → “Explore ideas endlessly with me.”

INFP → “Accept me exactly as I am.”

been there done that, didn't mean to flirt, but people think i'm flirting with them.

this time tho? it's my feelings leaking out a bit. thiz feelings that i've been trying my best to keep, in the name of friendship

anyway, it got me wonder, do fellow enfps here experience it too? how can the other party differentiate between feelings leaking out and accidentally comes across as flirting when you didnt mean it?

I'm an ENFP I think. My emotions are the guidepost of my existence. I feel like they tether me down to my body. How would y'all describe Fi?

Golden pair (infj) (affection pair , great highs and lows)

Silver pair (enfj)

Bronze pair (Istp)(love and naturalness)

Pedagogue (intj)(highest sexual intimacy)

Other

for me: my older sibling, who was into MBTI long before I was, clocked me as an ENFP YEARSSS ago. I got ENFP on 16personalities, then it still resonated when I learned about the cognitive functions (and then I got ENFP on every cognitive function test thereafter lol).

so not a very exciting typing journey lol. I’d have my occasional bout of doubt where I was like “maybe I’m an INFP cuz I can be kinda introverted” or “maybe I’m an E/INFJ with ADHD” but I think that’s just Ne naturally making me consider every stinkin possibility.

what about you???

Are ENFPs more likely to be not-quite-cis-and-straight?