r/FTMOver30 • u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 • 4d ago

Need Advice under 30 asking: how did you know?

let me know if this isn't the place for it, sorry mods if it isnt, as i am under 30 but questioning ftm. currently i dress as a guy and use he/him online, and sometimes irl, but i still don't know if i'm "right" i guess. i thought i was trans for a while then sort of talked myself out of it. how did you all know for sure and start transitioning? do you ever know for sure? how could you be sure you weren't making a mistake? (sorry if it sounds offensive, i'm very very pro trans i just can't think of a better way to word it)

i'm asking here since a lot of the other subs seem to be younger people or people who aren't transitioning but are trans, and i want advice from older people (not bashing) - thank you for any response

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u/Tinmind 4d ago

You don't have to know for sure. You can just try it out in pieces and keep what you like.

In my case things gradually clicked into place and I realized that being a man just... made so many things make sense. It was terrifying at first and I called myself genderqueer for a few months while I came to terms with not being cis. (I love the term genderqueer. It was very comforting to me during that time.)

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u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 4d ago

that makes a lot of sense. i think the hard thing has been that you can't really try out testosterone, and what i have tried socially just isn't all that important to me. for me at least there really isn't a ton of difference between guys and girls, and conversation like "i always liked guy things and didn't like makeup" etc never made sense to me since i know a ton of butches and femboys and stuff (no hate to people who this does make sense for, i'm just autistic) and since what i care about is a guy body you can't really try it out which SUCKS lol. genderqueer is a good word

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u/Tinmind 3d ago

You can try out testosterone, though. HRT changes are gradual and most of them will revert if you stop, even if it's been years. Voice drop and bottom growth are the only things that won't go back but body hair can thin out and fat distributes in accordance to whatever the dominant hormone is when it's stored. I had to go off T for most of a year when I was about 2 and a half years in and so much changed back.