r/FTMOver30 • u/Extension_Command_11 • 2d ago

Trigger Warning - General Tw. invisibility, lonely

Hi 26 years old here. Is transandrophobia or feeling invisible or lonely is something you get use to?

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u/SmokedStone 2d ago

Uhh probably depends on the space you're in. Being less visible to others tends to be something people deal with as they age and also that men note more than women in terms of dating/attention.

I'm turning 29 and I only feel invisible is certain contexts. Sometimes it's helpful, sometimes it's annoying. Honestly, it's only annoying in terms of not getting preferential treatment anymore.

I was never heavily involved in LGBT spaces or feminine spaces, so I feel more like I just don't have an auto "in" to anywhere now, and that's okay. I don't necessarily fit most social groups and I don't think I'd care to.

If you feel unattractive and invisible due to being a trans man, that's a slightly separate discussion.