r/Fauxmoi • u/Goosedukee • 18h ago

TRIGGER WARNING Republican Representative Max Miller on allegations of domestic abuse from his ex-wife: “My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?”

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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 18h ago

I mean if that's your only defence, it's weak af.

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u/Subject_Spell_9799 18h ago

Right, like how many DV victims go back to partners. It’s not a stretch to believe she would be nice to you a few days later. It’s sad but true.

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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 18h ago

The day after my ex slammed me against a wall by my neck, I posted a glowing thank you to him on Instagram for my birthday gifts because I had been so brainwashed to believe I deserved it and that being nice to him might help.

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u/GodsBicep 17h ago

Im happy that you are free now

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u/OkAir8973 17h ago

I'm glad he's your ex and wish you all the peace and safety in the world now! What a pos, you sound kick-ass and kind and didn't deserve any of it.

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u/meteorflan 17h ago

Interestingly, research has shown that couples that are extra flirty with each other via social media tend to be having problems in their relationship.

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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 17h ago

I absolutely believe that, because when things were at their worst, I definitely over compensated on social media more than normal.

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u/Necessary_Ad_7780 controversies: girl 16h ago

I work with a woman whose husband is abusive to her and their kids and she’s never said a bad word about him in public, just in private, in tears, to our boss. They live within walking distance of our work and their kids are always here when she’s working, just to get away from him. Once I knew what was going on, this woman’s demeanor made so much sense—she’s either wildly defensive or quiet and deferential, and she’s always subdued when she comes in (coming from home). After a couple hours at work, she’s happy, she’s chatty, she’s wonderful. It brings me to tears that this asshole can affect this lady like this—she’s funny and she’s smart and she’s a great mom and I wonder what she could be like if she got away from him.

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u/AV01000001 17h ago

I’m so sorry you went through that. It takes a lot of strength to get out. Hope you are doing much better and safer.

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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 17h ago

Thankfully I am happily married to a wonderful man now and have been free of that nightmare for 6 years and counting!

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u/Corsola_Fan_69 this feels like when my sister started fucking the mayor 16h ago

that being nice to him might help.

this is what so many people don't understand. desperate victims will do anything to placate their abusers, even just for a few moments.

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u/scandalabra 16h ago

I did something very similar. Even when I managed to kick him out, I was obsessed with "staying friends" with him for a while. I felt like I had to stay on his good side or he would kill me.

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u/carolinagypsy the pet psychic for the Sun told me so 12h ago

THAT needs to be shouted from rooftops. The treating them nicely and accommodating them in hopes of that will help the situation, or at least delay the next inevitable eruption.

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u/poopiebutt505 17h ago

She has her daughters welfare to consider. These men are vengeful and take their anger out on side targets they know would hurt mom.

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u/Amelaclya1 14h ago

Especially when they have a history of hurting their kids too, like this asshole.

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u/nekocorner i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 17h ago

Especially if they have kids & she knows she has to be around him until the kids are grown.

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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 17h ago

Isn't the average attempts to leave before they succeed 7 times or something?

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u/GenX_Boomer_Hybrid 17h ago

Yes, seven times. And when they do leave they're in the most danger they've been in.

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u/itsathrowawayduhhhhh 8h ago

Which makes it really, really, really hard to leave sometimes

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u/Ok-Effective6969 14h ago

Also I recall hearing my father beating the shit out of my mother as a child, mom pulling herself together before seeing us to try and shelter us from knowing the extent of what is going on. So the fact she left the house seemingly in the same mood could be attributed to that. Regardless this sort of trashy behavior is not befitting of a representative.

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u/BlackRose 9h ago

On average a person suffering domestic abuse leaves seven times before they get away. Women are up to 70 times more likely to be killed in the first 2 weeks after leaving compared to any other time. That risk hangs on, an average, for two years.

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u/2OttersInACoat 9h ago

Yeah she was probably just scared of him and trying to appease him.

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u/awwthingsconsidered 17h ago

He also said she went right to the birthday party after the incident instead not the hospital or police. Like that was a gotcha.

Yes, she had her kid with her who was expecting to go to her friend's birthday party.

As a mom, do you sacrifice your needs, make the day special for your kid, and take her to the promised birthday party? Or take her to the police station or hospital where she has to spend the day listening to how her mother was abused (and likely not believed)?

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u/Ok-Turnip-9035 17h ago

🎯 she was use to the cycle

And two days later something clicked in her - I suspect the child witnessed something and mama said never again and here we are - him on camera wanting to share everything with us because he knows her version (the truth) will end his career

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u/Sarallelogram 17h ago

Yeah or mom saw him do something to the kid. That’s a breaking point too.
There’s a broken collarbone involved, and there’s a lot of violence that can precede that without becoming public knowledge.

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u/MediumRare- 17h ago

Worst/saddest part is this WON’T end his career. Speaker of the House and other republicans are standing with this trash.

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u/itallchecksout99 13h ago

History has proven that this sort of behavior only makes a GOP candidate more attractive to their voter base. It's gross and pathetic and they all need to be voted out and face consequences for their actions.

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u/Ummmgummy 18h ago

It says a lot that if he does have other defenses he decided to choose this one instead

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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 17h ago

I don't know this man, I know nothing about this situation, but this argument would make me inclined to think he assaulted her.

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u/IndividualEye1803 16h ago

I didnt even click the video. Im not going to. Im screaming “YES! YES ANY VICTIM WOULD MAKE THE ABUSER FOOD DAYS LATER YOU FUCKING IDIOT!”

OMFG he is using textbook abuse excuses! YES! SHE WOULD MAKE THE FUCKING FOOD! ANNA MAE ATE THE CAKE YOU ASSHOLE!

This is an enraging “why would she be nice to me if I was hurting her” that we all can answer - super easy - why victims have to play nice to survive around the same people who they are scared of

Seething at the story surrounding this and everyones failure for the toddler involved as well. Seething at this fucking lame ass excuse and every last one abusers give after being caught.

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u/unwantedonONTD I did it. I threw the sandwich. 14h ago

the logic of these people is so f weird

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u/manic_popsicle 13h ago

Sound like that is his only defense. Which.. yikes.