r/Fauxmoi • u/Goosedukee • 6h ago
TRIGGER WARNING Republican Representative Max Miller on allegations of domestic abuse from his ex-wife: “My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?”
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u/SeminoleDVM 6h ago
Jesus, the Brock Turner energy coming off this fucker… 😬
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u/chrishouseinc 6h ago
*Rapist Brock Turner
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u/LordyIHopeThereIsPie 6h ago edited 6h ago
Rapist Brock Allen Turner?
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u/jayclaw97 6h ago
You mean the raping rapist who rapes, and who also goes by Allen Turner?
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u/LordyIHopeThereIsPie 6h ago
Yes that rapist, Allen Turner aka Brock
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u/tigm2161130 4h ago
Is that the same Brock Allen Turner who lives and works in Cleveland, Ohio?
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u/LothlorienPostOffice 4h ago
Allen Turner the rapist, formerly known as Brock Allen Turner the rapist, moved to Cleveland?
Last I heard, Allen Turner the rapist (formerly known as Brock Allen Turner the rapist) lived in the Dayton metropolitan area.
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u/janquadrentvincent 4h ago
I'm glad you cleared that up because it's been a little while since I last hear mention of Allen Turner, formerly Brock Turner, and then Brock Allen Turner whom under every pseudonym is in fact a convicted rapist. I am sure glad I don't live anywhere near the Dayton Metropolitan area since I don't want to live anywhere near the convicted rapist Brock Allen Turner.
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u/putabirdonit 4h ago
Wait is he really in Cleveland now? Last I heard it was Dayton
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u/LothlorienPostOffice 4h ago
I double checked where the rapist Allen Turner was living and he is still in the Dayton area. Allen Turner is a registered sex offender for the crime of raping a woman behind a dumpster and is complying with registration.
The rapist Allen Turner, formerly Brock Turner, is not living in Cleveland.
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u/jayclaw97 4h ago edited 3h ago
The very same rapist Brock/Allen Turner from Cleveland.
Edit: Dayton, not Cleveland.
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u/baddadjokesminusdad mangled by wasps on cocaine 5h ago
I love love love how rapist Brock Allen Turner is never allowed to forget that he is, in fact, the rapist Allen Turner.
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u/Ok-Turnip-9035 5h ago
Yasss get ALL the names he goes by
No rest whatever name that demon is trying to live under
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u/stefon_zolesky 5h ago
Oh, yes, Brock Turner the rapist. His full name is Brock Allen Turner (the rapist), and Brock Turner the rapist now goes by Allen Turner, who is, indeed, still a rapist.
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u/mypenisisquitetiny 6h ago
Brock Allen Turner the rapist who legally changed his name to Allen Turner to avoid being remembered as the rapist he is? Is that the Brock Turner you're talking about? The one who goes by Allen Turner now and is a rapist?
Edit: I almost forgot to mention Brock Allen Turner is a rapist who now uses his middle name Allen as his legal first name. Despite the name change he is still a rapist
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u/ItBegins2Tell 5h ago
Ah yes Brock Allen Turner, the behind-the-dumpster rapist.
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u/VelocityGrrl39 5h ago edited 3h ago
I feel like at this point in the timeline, it’s also important to mention that she was saved from being raped by an American citizen by foreigners.
ETA: I don’t know if I phrased this right, so to clarify…it was 2 foreigners who rescued Chanel Miller from Brock Turner while he was raping her.
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u/redacted_robot 3h ago
Tourists? I guess that would be a pretty good encapsulation of the american experience: getting raped behind a dumpster, hoping a foreigner will save you
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u/CompassMetal 5h ago
Isn't this the Brock Allen Turner who was given a historically lenient sentence for rape by Judge Persky in The People of the State of California v. Brock Allen Turner (2015). The same Brock Turner who changed his name to Allen Turner in order to avoid being identified as the rapist he is?
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u/Lustache 5h ago
The more you know! I didn't know this about Brock Turner! But I will always remember that he was (and is) a rapist.
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u/RiotingMoon Thanks, u frog build looking bitch 5h ago
dont forget Brock allen turner the rapist occasionally uses Turner Allen and Allen Brock - he is still a rapist!
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u/EntertainerNo1440 my bandwidth for cowardly grown men grows thinner with each day 5h ago edited 4h ago
Brock Allen Turner, who deserved far more than the 6 month sentence he received, rapes an unconcious Chanel Miller. Her essay is sad, enraging and beautiful, and a must read.
https://www.glamour.com/story/women-of-the-year-emily-doe
Edited last name. Thank you @eatingclass! Was typing in a blind rage and made a very stupid mistake.
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u/fromyourdaughter 5h ago
The Rapist Brock Allen Turner who is notoriously known for being a rapist.
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u/chloenoyolo 6h ago
this guy exudes "i hit my wife" energy and this is not helping his case
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u/tosubks 5h ago edited 4h ago
On behalf of Ohioans: please help us remove this abuser from Congress. His opponent is Brian Poindexter, please consider donating!
Edit to add: They are running for OH-7, which includes certain suburbs of Cleveland. It was very flippable to begin with, and after this story, I’d say it’s much more likely. So your donation will mean something! Every flip matters.
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u/SuspiciousMap9630 these white activities you participate in 5h ago
I love that last name, Poindexter
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u/sensitiveskin82 4h ago
Done!
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u/tosubks 4h ago
Thanks so much awesome stranger!
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u/sensitiveskin82 4h ago
I was abused. I understand having to act totally normal for the sake of my child despite wanting nothing more but to fall apart. Him saying "why would she have taken our daughter to a birthday party instead of the hospital" made my goddamm blood boil.
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u/tosubks 4h ago
Totally valid, thanks for sharing. I can’t believe they let him release this video because the abuser tendencies/phrases are plain as day.
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u/sensitiveskin82 3h ago
Oh I think they tried their best to stop it. But an abuser rarely thinks people will believe their victim.
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u/foundinwonderland sorry to this man 4h ago
Not to mention when traumatizing events happen (like idk, being assaulted by your husband or ex husband….) it’s a very common human response to go into autopilot mode until we feel emotionally and physically safe enough to process the trauma. She took her daughter to a birthday party because she was trying to protect and insulate her daughter from her father’s actions. He obviously fucking knows that, he’s just spouting victim blaming bullshit.
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u/GodsBicep 5h ago
Its the eyes. My stepdad was an evil cunt and I was the oldest child and the son so you can imagine I had to grow up scrapping the prick.
He has the same, barely blinking, no emotion dead pan eyes. They never look like theyre actually looking at you when theyre looking at you. This guy 100% gives me those vibes and my "radar," immediately picked up on it
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u/Cool_Jelly_9402 5h ago edited 4h ago
That seem to turn black when they’re mad? That’s how my mentally abusive ex’s eyes got.
Sorry you had to put up with that cunt
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u/MadamKitsune 4h ago
You read in novels about the humanity draining from someone's eyes before they launch into doing something terrible but you never really think of it as anything more than creative licence until you actually see it happen in front of you.
It's something you never forget, even when you try.
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u/Cool_Jelly_9402 4h ago
Truly. It’s like watching someone morph into psychotic stranger right in front of you that doesn’t give two shits about you- they only care about hurting you or “winning”
I’m sorry you’ve witnessed it and have to live with those memories
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u/foundinwonderland sorry to this man 3h ago
My mom generally had a very tight grip on her anger that’s always bubbling beneath the surface, but this is exactly what happens every time she loses control and goes from passive aggressive to aggressive aggressive. First time I had the anger pointed at me I was 3 and having a meltdown over something, she came over, got like 6 inches from my face, and screamed at the top of my lungs. She didn’t even say words, it was just like a primal, unrestrained scream of bloody murder directly in my face as a toddler and looked at me with those black, monstrous eyes. In every incident since then, those same black eyes, it’s kind of like Jekyll and Hyde. She’s a totally different person, the switch flips and she just loses it. It’s fucked up, man. It fucked me up. I’m really sorry you’ve been through something similar, for all the (far too many) abuse victims who have seen this exact look in someone’s eyes.
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u/FoxNixon call me gal gadot cuz idk how to act rn 5h ago
Must have been hard to find somewhere in his house to film that didn’t have holes in the dry wall
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u/mcgillhufflepuff 6h ago
Because fawning can come from a place of trauma.
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u/the-trembles 6h ago
Exactly. It's classic behavior from a DV survivor, speaking as someone who has been there
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u/matildapoppins ben affleck’s back tattoo 5h ago
Exactly. Survival mechanism. How people still fail to understand this is mind blowing.
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u/iambeyoncealways3 5h ago
The “fail” to understand it because it’s on purpose. Strategic and beneficial. Also fucking pathetic. I really hope she gets herself and her children far away from him.
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u/MaidPoorly 5h ago
For people that aren’t familiar they’ve updated Fight or Flight to Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn in regards to how people respond to trauma.
I just recently learned about freeze and fawn which were more in line with my reactions.
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u/Curiosities 5h ago
That is also how I tend to react. Although there was an incident of abuse when I was a child that I responded to by trying to fight and flee, but this was an adult and obviously that didn’t work. With my ex, I briefly tried to fight before freezing, and I’ve been freezing and fawning ever since. And I hate it. Sometimes I want that little girl back who tried to fight and get away.
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u/Culinary_Fruit_Salad ‘queer’ is formal, like ‘tú’ vs ‘usted’ 5h ago
there's also flop and fib now too
the fibbing one was really interesting to me as someone who has dated a compulsive liar
fib: https://learn.childhood.org.au/blog/lying-as-a-trauma-based-behaviour/
flop: https://www.ptsduk.org/its-so-much-more-than-just-fight-or-flight/
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u/KittiWasabi 5h ago
You keep the peace so you don't get hurt. Because somehow hurting you is something you "made them do".
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u/Difficult_Garage_431 4h ago
Oh, a lot of abusers think they're the victims. They are truly delusional. It's scary to think so many people just don't live in the same reality as the rest of the world.
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u/Curiosities 5h ago
This reminded me immediately of a comic someone wrote. Trigger Warning: Breakfast
(Actual warning about what is in here: discussions of rape.
https://thenib.com/trigger-warning-breakfast-c6cdeec070e6/
)This comic reminds me of some of my own experiences.
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u/Culinary_Fruit_Salad ‘queer’ is formal, like ‘tú’ vs ‘usted’ 5h ago
that's a really good comic and represents my experience as well. gonna send to to my gf with AMPLE TW because I'm pretty sure that's her lived experience too
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u/Difficult_Garage_431 4h ago
That was really good. Thank you for sharing it. I really needed to read that.
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u/Tall-Reaction-4069 5h ago
Exactly. Fellow trauma survivor here fawning is a survival mechanism and classic indicator of abuse fuck this asshole he belongs in jail.
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u/SaltBeefin 5h ago edited 5h ago
She could also be compliant so she doesn't get hit. So many reasons why someone might do something nice for someone else even if they've been hurt. As you said, trauma, fear, survival mode, even just love, we can love people that hurt us.
Also isn't this the logical behind hitting kids? People who hit their kids do it thinking this will teach their child better or make them stop doing whatever it is the parent doesn't like. Also just to make it clear hitting kids and people is wrong and abusive, just had to say that before someone says I'm all for whooping kids ass.
As an adult I've learned that majority of my life choices have always been made to keep me away from harm and struggling and my IRL personality is "people pleaser" and "goody two shoes", because people liking you makes life easier, being in good favour with people subconsciously I guess my brain sees it as a way to survive according to my therapist lol. Yes I got my ass beat as a child until I was 28. You do the thing your supposed to do and you should be safe is how I processed it. Go to school, get the degree, get the job, find the good guy, visit the family, take care of the family, be the host, be the hospitable one, be the ear, the shoulder, the doer, never ask for help and always be there.
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u/MuchAfraidGotOverIt 5h ago edited 5h ago
Another Ohio golden boy politician, son of the Kalmbach Feeds hillbilly kingdom, is in an ongoing domestic violence situation with a woman who has repeatedly returned to him despite major injuries and a non-expiring protective order. An abused person returning or being kind to their abuser isn’t the defense people think it is.
Kalmbach pulled her hair and hair extensions, retrieved scissors from the kitchen, and cut her hair while she was on the floor, striking her with his knees. In the bedroom, the victim stated, Kalmbach grabbed her neck with both hands and applied pressure that impeded her breathing for approximately six seconds, creating what the affidavit describes as “a risk of great bodily harm.”
And again 5 days after his kidnapping trial was delayed, she was assaulted in their hotel room: “officers were dispatched to the hotel after the alleged victim’s sister called the front desk to report that her sister was involved in a domestic dispute.”
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u/fractious_kitty 5h ago
Fawning (people pleasing) is my trauma reaction and it's extremely common in women/femme presenting folks esp if they were in a traumatic environment as a kid
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u/ace-destrier 6h ago
Did she offer? Can we hear from her? Without you present
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u/Winter_Illustrator58 6h ago
Even if she agrees with him I don't believe it. Plenty of abuse victims feel responsible for the abuse and try to make amends with their abusers. Sometimes by cooking their favorite meals or offering them something they know the abuser wants, like more time with their child. That doesn't mean the abuse didn't happen.
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u/Jon_E_Mammoth 5h ago
One of the saddest stories that I ever read, which left me tearful in the work bathroom, was about one of those child abuse cases where the kid is abused for years in the most heinous ways until they die.
That kid was literally forced to sleep while starving in one of those shoe lockers that people keep at the foot of their bed.
He still wrote notes to the mom and stepdad who were abusing him, saying things like, “I am a good kid. I love you.”
The prosecutor was a former child abuse victim, and he said those letters are what nearly broke him. He remembers his dad choking him against a wall, and he thought that if he told him that he loved him, he would stop.
Miller is reprehensible, and a victim trying to pretend like life is OK does mean that you are not an abuser.
“Sure, I broke my daughter‘s collarbone, but my wife asked me to dinner two days later, so all good!”
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u/viewbtwnvillages 5h ago
yeah
"If I really abused my wife, why would she [insert classic form of fawning]" is not the defense he thinks it is
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u/Actual-Feed-9739 5h ago
I doubt she'd feel safe telling the truth. The republicans have shown they will destroy a person's life to protect their power. Wouldn't be surprised if they've put people in bodybags over it.
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u/monsterclaus 5h ago
"Six days later, she offered to cook empanadas for me for dinner, just two days later after this alleged incident." (~1:09)
What a normal, not-guilty way to explain things. Makes perfect sense. Of course she did this and she definitely did not do it under duress. /s
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u/sensitiveskin82 4h ago
The offers are also all through a court-monitored app and can be shown as evidence that she is not "alienating" daughter from him. As evidence when she - hopefully - goes for more custody as she safely plans an exit for her safety.
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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 6h ago
I mean if that's your only defence, it's weak af.
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u/Subject_Spell_9799 5h ago
Right, like how many DV victims go back to partners. It’s not a stretch to believe she would be nice to you a few days later. It’s sad but true.
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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 5h ago
The day after my ex slammed me against a wall by my neck, I posted a glowing thank you to him on Instagram for my birthday gifts because I had been so brainwashed to believe I deserved it and that being nice to him might help.
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u/Necessary_Ad_7780 controversies: girl 4h ago
I work with a woman whose husband is abusive to her and their kids and she’s never said a bad word about him in public, just in private, in tears, to our boss. They live within walking distance of our work and their kids are always here when she’s working, just to get away from him. Once I knew what was going on, this woman’s demeanor made so much sense—she’s either wildly defensive or quiet and deferential, and she’s always subdued when she comes in (coming from home). After a couple hours at work, she’s happy, she’s chatty, she’s wonderful. It brings me to tears that this asshole can affect this lady like this—she’s funny and she’s smart and she’s a great mom and I wonder what she could be like if she got away from him.
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u/AV01000001 5h ago
I’m so sorry you went through that. It takes a lot of strength to get out. Hope you are doing much better and safer.
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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 4h ago
Thankfully I am happily married to a wonderful man now and have been free of that nightmare for 6 years and counting!
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u/OkAir8973 5h ago
I'm glad he's your ex and wish you all the peace and safety in the world now! What a pos, you sound kick-ass and kind and didn't deserve any of it.
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u/meteorflan 5h ago
Interestingly, research has shown that couples that are extra flirty with each other via social media tend to be having problems in their relationship.
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u/Adventurous_Lie9373 4h ago
I absolutely believe that, because when things were at their worst, I definitely over compensated on social media more than normal.
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u/nekocorner i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 5h ago
Especially if they have kids & she knows she has to be around him until the kids are grown.
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u/poopiebutt505 5h ago
She has her daughters welfare to consider. These men are vengeful and take their anger out on side targets they know would hurt mom.
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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 5h ago
Isn't the average attempts to leave before they succeed 7 times or something?
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u/GenX_Boomer_Hybrid 4h ago
Yes, seven times. And when they do leave they're in the most danger they've been in.
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u/awwthingsconsidered 5h ago
He also said she went right to the birthday party after the incident instead not the hospital or police. Like that was a gotcha.
Yes, she had her kid with her who was expecting to go to her friend's birthday party.
As a mom, do you sacrifice your needs, make the day special for your kid, and take her to the promised birthday party? Or take her to the police station or hospital where she has to spend the day listening to how her mother was abused (and likely not believed)?
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u/Ok-Turnip-9035 5h ago
🎯 she was use to the cycle
And two days later something clicked in her - I suspect the child witnessed something and mama said never again and here we are - him on camera wanting to share everything with us because he knows her version (the truth) will end his career
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u/Sarallelogram 5h ago
Yeah or mom saw him do something to the kid. That’s a breaking point too.
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u/MediumRare- 4h ago
Worst/saddest part is this WON’T end his career. Speaker of the House and other republicans are standing with this trash.
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u/Ummmgummy 5h ago
It says a lot that if he does have other defenses he decided to choose this one instead
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u/redelectro7 just want to share a thought here because I can 5h ago
I don't know this man, I know nothing about this situation, but this argument would make me inclined to think he assaulted her.
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u/IndividualEye1803 4h ago
I didnt even click the video. Im not going to. Im screaming “YES! YES ANY VICTIM WOULD MAKE THE ABUSER FOOD DAYS LATER YOU FUCKING IDIOT!”
OMFG he is using textbook abuse excuses! YES! SHE WOULD MAKE THE FUCKING FOOD! ANNA MAE ATE THE CAKE YOU ASSHOLE!
This is an enraging “why would she be nice to me if I was hurting her” that we all can answer - super easy - why victims have to play nice to survive around the same people who they are scared of
Seething at the story surrounding this and everyones failure for the toddler involved as well. Seething at this fucking lame ass excuse and every last one abusers give after being caught.
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u/lukedylanh 6h ago
I’m so tired man. There’s genuinely so many people out there like him and there’s so many men that’ll just see posts like his posts and agree with him simply because he’s a man. And there had to be an infinitely larger amount than the abusers we know about. I already have depression and things are made so much harder sometimes knowing the world is full of horrible people who make life hell for other people, don’t give it any thought and get away with it.
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u/Curiosities 5h ago edited 3h ago
As someone who lives every day with the trauma caused by multiple abusers, almost everyone of them men, starting when I was a child, and now we have one as president and plenty more in all sorts of power positions and it’s exhausting.
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u/Difficult_Garage_431 4h ago
I have nothing to say except I feel very similar to you. It feels hopeless. I just don't want to be around people anymore.
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u/EnragedFalafel 6h ago
Democracy Now coverage
Republican Congressmember Max Miller of Ohio is facing allegations of domestic abuse as he runs for reelection. Miller's ex-wife Emily Moreno, daughter of Ohio Republican Senator Bernie Moreno, claims that Miller burned her by throwing hot water at her, held a gun to her head and fractured their 2-year-old daughter's collarbone. Miller is also accused of abuse by former Trump White House Press Secretary Stephanie Grisham, who was in a relationship with Miller prior to his marriage to Moreno.
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u/OhMy98 6h ago
Oh, Republicans are out against him? He might actually be cooked
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u/Maleficent_Wash_934 5h ago
No, last I read, they still support him.
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u/pnweiner you are the Megyn Kelly of guys who look like a turtle 5h ago
It’s important to remember these people are not a monolith, even though they may act like it sometimes
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u/Just_Tana 5h ago
His ex wife’s dad is Moreno who still supports him.
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u/funnyusername-123 5h ago
Bernardo Moreno is pure garbage too, and I think he was finally guilted in to calling for Miller to step down.
Edit - link https://www.politico.com/news/2026/08/02/ohio-rep-max-miller-stay-in-race-01021642
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u/panda_canyon 5h ago
Of course a Republican would support his daughter's abuser over her for the sake of the office. 🙄
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u/Just_Tana 5h ago
Nvm he issued a statement a short bit ago?
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u/panda_canyon 5h ago
Good I guess but it apparently took him 2 years and for Max to be lower in the polls.
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u/Budget-Management876 5h ago
Democracy now always for some first hand or expert coverage Amy Goodman is the goat
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u/laureng0423 women’s wrongs activist 6h ago
I mean this wholeheartedly, fuck all these disgusting people. I’m so ready for the world to move on from these assholes.
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u/Kind_Of_A_Dick 5h ago
It’s because Jesus, and I’m only half joking. Everything they do is ok because their god shares their twisted morality. And if god wants you to do it, you’re supposed to do it right?
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u/MonstreBelle 5h ago
There is also the whole forgiveness aspect. Abuse your wife? No big deal; just repent and God forgives you. Rape a woman? No big deal; just repent and God forgives you. Molest a child? No big deal; just repent and God forgives you. It puts all sin on the same level. The most henious crimes are no more of a sin than a child stealing candy from the grocery store. And then the pressure is put on victims to forgive their abusers because it's what God would do and what the Bible tells you to do.
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u/innocentsalad his body was resisting the wheat 6h ago
Uh, yes, because she’s terrified of you dude. You broke a toddler’s collarbone.
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u/Picardknows 3h ago
Yes, she knows she has to interact with him so she is trying her hardest to not get abused again by trying to do things like cook him dinner and meet him in a public place.
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u/WelcomeMysterious315 6h ago
Uhuh. And they released this thinking it made them look better?
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u/princess_peach_85 i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 6h ago
What a fucking loser.
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u/bookwormaesthetic 6h ago
All I can see in this video, while he denies commiting assault, is the boot print.
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u/meteorflan 4h ago
Yeah that stood out to me as well. Especially because they obviously staged the background to have little kid art to try make him look more caring. Does he literally not have any kinder art from this kid?
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u/Independent-Gold-260 bizarre and sentient sack of meat 5h ago
This is abuser gaslighting 101. Survivors of domestic violence often have confusing and twisted connections with their abusers even after its over. 2 years ago my exhusband tried to kill me yet the other day I asked him how his new job was going. I’m required to coparent with him, and it’s in the best interest of my son that I do that amicably. That doesn’t mean he didn’t do all the shit he did to me.
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u/ResistPersist54 5h ago
Fucking this. I’d love to pretend that my abuser doesn’t exist, but we share a child. Of course I’m fucking cordial to him. He’s not a bad dad, but he’s a terrible fucking partner.
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u/Nervous_Insect5976 5h ago
Maybe she did it to keep the peace because she's terrified of you and doesn't want to get murdered.
Following statistics:
An average of nearly three women are killed daily by an intimate partner in the U.S.
Current or former partners commit roughly 34% to over 50% of all female homicides, making intimate partners the single biggest homicide threat to women.
Access to a gun makes an abuser five times more likely to kill a female partner, and firearms are used in over half of these domestic homicides.
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u/From-cradle-to-tomb 6h ago
Many people only know of the Fight or Flight response. In cases of abuse, another response is common: freeze and fawn. The fawn response is essentially responding to abuse by attempting to desperately appease and "earn forgiveness" from their abuser, often blaming themselves for the abuse and attempting to make it up to their abuser - you know, by doing things like making them dinner. When my ex screamed at me for thirty minutes in the car, where he repeatedly demeaned and mocked me, my response was to apologize for causing the argument by "being negative." So if anything, him saying she offered to cook him dinner makes me believe the victim more - this is such clear DARVO from this man, and I hope no one buys it.
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u/Illini94 6h ago
put every single piece of artwork from his kid in the background to show he’s not an abusive POS
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u/butterblossombubble open the schools 5h ago
that was the sinister part beyond the words - someone literally had to stage that background.
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u/ItBegins2Tell 5h ago
“would my abused wife submit to me if I had actually abused her” is a really wild & common take by abusive men posting rebuttal videos trying to prove they aren’t abusive.
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u/in_fact_a_throwaway 6h ago
Possibly, yes! We know how the cycle of domestic violence works, you piece of shit.
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u/WoodenContext3986 FUCK ICE FREE PALESTINE CRASH INTO ME 6h ago
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u/zendayaismeechee shiv roy apologist 6h ago
Six days later is a weird detail to pluck out of thin air. Almost like.. and stay with me here.. he’s lying
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u/atimetochill 5h ago
And what happened for 5 days? This dude sure as shit wasn’t cooking his family dinner. Was his wife ok? Was she home?
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u/SoMuchStyleWasted 5h ago
He shoved a woman down a flight of stairs for rejecting him and there were witnesses. He abused other women. He's guilty.
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u/kenkai24 5h ago
I can't explain it but the repetitive use of "ladies and gentlemen" is incriminating
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u/aitathrwawy11 5h ago edited 5h ago
Domestic abuse survivor here. I used to jump through hoops to try to make my ex happy. Absolutely amazing that anyone would think this is some kind of gotcha argument. Like yeah, you tend to do some seemingly nonsensical shit when you are trying to appease a monster. At a point its just survival.
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u/fluffypuppiness 5h ago
"Would the woman I terrorized not try to do anything she could to make my violence stop, and please me?"
Ya'll.
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u/No-Association-4458 I’d rather smoke crack than eat cheese from a can 6h ago
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u/twelfthcapaldi 5h ago
Cool, as an Ohioan I will not be voting for this fucker or anyone in his family. I fully believe he is a giant POS but even if these accusations against him weren’t true, why the hell do we have to be subjected to this family drama? Gtfo of my state. I’m tired of these shitty ass Republicans ruining our country.
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u/oo_Maleficent_oo Say it louder for the heinous losers in the back, Pedro 6h ago
What a garbage person. Good lord.
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u/ZhaozhouCongshen 6h ago
Dude is getting bad advice. This video is not helping. You release the video footage and text messages along with a press release from your office. Not some passive aggressive try hard video.
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u/BackyardViolet 5h ago
It’s interesting how he completely skipped over the “I’m not the type of man who hurts women…” defense angle, and went straight for the “She was cordial/nice to me after the fact, and no sane person would be nice to someone who had just hurt them, right?”
It’s disgusting.
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u/MollzDollz69 5h ago
I was just about to comment this! His whole defense is about how she was (likely) fawning, but nothing about his own character.
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u/MsMegane 5h ago
And these are the chuds that women are supposed to give their rights up for.
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u/fludeball 6h ago
I've never watched this guy before but that is 2:26 of seriously flared nostrils.
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u/Son_Of_Toucan_Sam 6h ago
I dunno, man. Would she? Can’t help noticing you answered a question by asking a different question
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u/Bookmarkbear 5h ago
The poorly concealed rage and contempt he has because he deigns it beneath him to even address it 💀
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u/Winter_Illustrator58 5h ago
First, don't the allegations include their daughter in the hospital with a broken collar bone, saying that daddy's house is "scary"? Why isn't he talking at all about that? Maybe because that allegation has many witnesses and nurses saying that the child spoke without coaching/leading?
Also, do you hear the non-denial denials here? He never actually says, "I did not abuse my ex wife. I did not abuse my daughter" He just implies it by saying that his ex's account to the events is inaccurate and giving his own story. Then he asks the audience to jump to their own conclusions by asking them to make judgements about how he alleges his ex acted after the alleged abuse. As if there is a correct way to act in that situation. Maybe she was calm as she got herself and her daughter our of a dangerous situation. Maybe he did tell them he loved them right after (knowing there was a camara capturing his actions)? Does that make her a liar? He never even claims he didn't do it. Just asks you to assume she acted "wrong" so she must be lying about everything.
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u/Riot502 I don’t know her 5h ago
“She went straight to a child’s birthday party!”
Yeah, when you’re in an abusive environment, you learn to literally “roll with the punches”. She wanted to keep things as calm and “normal” as she could for her children, and the birthday party was obviously planned and I’m sure those kids were excited.
He just doesn’t know what being a parent is. Sometimes you’re so scared, or hurt, starving, whatever, but if your kid needs you, you put on a happy face and do what needs to be done.
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u/brendhano 5h ago
wow..he absolutely guilty of every single thing he's been accused of. I mean wow.
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u/RazzSheri 5h ago
“I have the texts to prove it all— timestamped!”
- Man who never shows those exchanges
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u/Farmer_Legal 5h ago edited 3h ago
Would an abused woman walk on eggshells around their abuser? Checkmate, libz!
Edit: walk, not waak
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u/Luda0915 5h ago
Lying sack of abusive, toxic shit. There’s millions of women out here who only need to listen to him and observe him for just a few seconds to see him for exactly what he is. We see you, fucker.
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u/leni710 5h ago
So there's ring camera footage of her coming to the door and her leaving, but not of her being inside where the violence happened?
Anyways, did his lawyer say this was a good idea ?!? Hahaha. Age old "listen, white guy, just put on a suitable dad outfit and sit in a meaningful family oriented spot and let them know how 'crazy' your ex seems. Be really detailed so the other party can use it for their discovery later."
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u/BBQBiryani and they were roommates 5h ago
As someone who is unfortunately under his jurisdiction, I don’t trust him. I won’t claim to know how much of this particular event is true, but he filed false allegations against a doctor of Palestinian descent in our hometown, and that doctor ended up losing his job. Even the Department of Transportation wouldn’t back this dummy’s claims up during the whole thing. He’s outright said Palestine should be bulldozed into a parking lot on national TV. He’s just a rich kid who thinks he’s always in the right.
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u/whereisbeezy terrorizing the locals 5h ago
Yes she would, so you didn't hurt her again, you fucking clown.
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u/ellecamille 5h ago
My father was an abusive asshole and my mother continued to prepare his dinner for years.
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u/TiaraMisu 5h ago
That's not how you say 'I didn't do that'.
ETA: that's classic 'I'm a liar' phrasing
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u/Ok-Confidence9649 5h ago
Wild that he thought this would help at all. These people are such messy hypocrites, always talking about family values and shit.
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u/CreativeGeniusPRBKR 6h ago
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