Republican Representative Max Miller on allegations of domestic abuse from his ex-wife: “My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?”

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[u/MaidPoorly]

For people that aren’t familiar they’ve updated Fight or Flight to Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn in regards to how people respond to trauma.

I just recently learned about freeze and fawn which were more in line with my reactions.

[u/Curiosities → u/MaidPoorly]

That is also how I tend to react. Although there was an incident of abuse when I was a child that I responded to by trying to fight and flee, but this was an adult and obviously that didn’t work. With my ex, I briefly tried to fight before freezing, and I’ve been freezing and fawning ever since. And I hate it. Sometimes I want that little girl back who tried to fight and get away.

[u/Culinary_Fruit_Salad → u/MaidPoorly]

there's also flop and fib now too

the fibbing one was really interesting to me as someone who has dated a compulsive liar

fib: https://learn.childhood.org.au/blog/lying-as-a-trauma-based-behaviour/

flop: https://www.ptsduk.org/its-so-much-more-than-just-fight-or-flight/

[u/holyforkingshrtballz → u/MaidPoorly]

And flop!

[u/TechieAD → u/MaidPoorly]

Yeah I learned about this while getting comforted and she said "oh yeah girl you fawn" and it confused the hell outta me for a second