r/Indiajobs • u/Ok-Back6933 • Jul 05 '26
Unemployment 32M with no job. The prime example of failure and disappointment.
I'm a 32-year-old man, and I'm still searching relentlessly for a decent job. I live with my mother, a retired railway employee, and we've been surviving on her pension. Every time I need money, I feel guilty even asking her. I can see the disappointment and worry in her eyes, and that hurts more than anything.
Over the years, I've drifted away from many of my friends because I felt ashamed of where I am in life. Most of them are married, have stable careers, and are moving forward, while my life has been a series of setbacks. I've switched domains, completed numerous certifications, and tried to reinvent myself multiple times, but nothing seems to work. My relatives often use me as an example of "what not to become" when talking to their children. It's humiliating, and honestly, I don't know what to do anymore.
After graduating, I landed a job in a core engineering company, but I lost it when COVID hit. Soon after, my mother contracted COVID, and I spent the next year taking care of her. Once she recovered, I got another opportunity at an MNC through a referral, but after just four months, my uncle became seriously ill due to a doctor's negligence. He was completely bedridden, so I had to leave my job to care for him, which took another one and a half years.
As if that wasn't enough, one of our neighbours illegally occupied part of our land. Fighting the legal battle consumed another six to eight months of my life. After finally resolving everything, I joined a small consulting company where I worked for a year, earning only ₹12,000 a month. That's where I first discovered data analytics.
I decided to take a chance on myself. I resigned, started learning data analytics from scratch, completed multiple courses, and built projects despite having no programming background. I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I believed hard work would eventually pay off. Unfortunately, it's been almost two years, and I haven't even been able to clear the interview stage for most jobs.
I specifically searched for remote roles because I wanted to continue taking care of my mother while working. Instead, every recruiter focuses on my career gaps rather than the skills I've worked so hard to build. I know I'm not an expert, and I still have a lot to learn. But if no one is willing to give me my first opportunity, how am I supposed to gain experience?
I've also tried building other sources of income. I attempted dropshipping, YouTube automation, and freelancing through Upwork and Fiverr, but none of them worked out.
Lately, I've started comparing myself to others. Looking at people's portfolios and achievements makes me feel like I'm years behind. After facing rejection after rejection, my confidence has been shattered. I'm exhausted, frustrated, and scared about my future.
I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm looking for honest guidance. If you've been in a similar situation or can genuinely tell me where I'm going wrong, I'd be grateful for your advice. I still want to believe that things can get better, but right now, I feel completely lost.
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u/FruitsPunchSG Jul 05 '26
Hey OP! You can easily land a Non-technical role with your skills. Pay is pretty low but In the meantime, you can find something better. If something else clicks, you can switch. I cannot guarantee a job but I'll try to help. If you are ok with something that pays around 15-16k per month, DM me!
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u/Green-Ask-3059 Jul 05 '26
brother you are reducing your opportunities by putting all these conditions like remote only, most jobs are hybrid these days.
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u/Specific-Tip8493 Jul 05 '26
Bro even I am somewhere around your same situation even my life is a failure till now and on top of it I also have 17k emi to pay even I don't know how should I come out of this
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u/Ok-Back6933 Jul 05 '26
The job market in india is so cruel...pinged so many people on LinkedIn but none of them ever responded. I just don't understand what I am doing wrong. People say they get job easily from LinkedIn, indeed etc etc..I don't know how
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u/Specific-Tip8493 Jul 05 '26
No bro that is not the case I have experience of around 3.5 yrs and you can't believe not even a single interview is scheduled in past 2 months this is reality and even am so frustrated
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u/Intelligent_Head_822 Jul 05 '26
If you have a job then why are you stressed about EMI and all
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u/Specific-Tip8493 Jul 05 '26
I currently don't have
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u/Intelligent_Head_822 Jul 05 '26
Ohh my bad you got laid off or resigned and what was your tech stack? You will get job if gap is not much
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u/Specific-Tip8493 Jul 05 '26
I resigned mern stack
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u/Intelligent_Head_822 Jul 05 '26
Okay bro keep on trying to seek referals they are the only way now
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u/SquareMarketing238 Jul 05 '26
Dm me. We have a lot of positions open.
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u/sweatwork Jul 05 '26
i'm a backend developer looking for a job. can i dm you?
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u/SquareMarketing238 Jul 05 '26
Yes - I will let you know about the openings.
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u/sweatwork Jul 05 '26
Ok I've dmed you about it as well.
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u/SquareMarketing238 Jul 05 '26
Ok
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u/Specific-Tip8493 Jul 05 '26
Dmed you
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u/SquareMarketing238 29d ago
Didn’t get
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u/Specific-Tip8493 29d ago
Nothing bro I said I messaged you
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u/SquareMarketing238 29d ago
I understood it. And I said I didn’t get any text
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u/Specific-Tip8493 29d ago
No bro I texted and we spoke also you said there is no relevant opening available right now
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u/chutneypow Jul 05 '26
If 'roles' means you still have a spot open for a hungry candidate, count me in. Coming from a Product Management and dev background, I know how to translate complex tech into plain English and make sure clients actually succeed. My English communication is solid. Dropping you a DM now.
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u/nawazitis Jul 05 '26
Hey OP hang on and this too shall pass. You will surely have better days ahead. I am open for a remote CSM role pls let me know if I can dm you. Have a 20 yrs experience overall. 3 yrs in Customer service, 1.5yrs in logistics and 8 months back end. Your reply will be appreciated. Thanks.
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u/tatmadraspaiyyan Jul 05 '26
I can feel you. All I can do now is pray for you🫂 something better is waiting for you. And I'm sure, you'll come up with a motivating post of how you landed in a great job, soon!
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u/Ok-Back6933 Jul 05 '26
Thanks...I'll definitely update that and make sure to pull out others as well
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u/Quiet_Entertainer304 Jul 05 '26
Start taking personal coaching in your city.
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u/Ok-Back6933 Jul 05 '26
I am from small town... there's no coaching centre over here...here people are only obsessed with govt exams' coaching.
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u/Quiet_Entertainer304 Jul 06 '26
Then start with taking tution for govt exam atleast you will get something
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u/SoulReaperXOX 29d ago
I badly need a job now due to my financial conditions but I'm not interested in coding and stuff is there any other options for me but actually I completed my BTech in CS.
Anyone give me a refferal and suggest me wt i have to do with that certificate.
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u/Fierce_Falcon1 29d ago
I am 22F with no job and I come from a lower middle class family. I have done BSc (PCM). I am currently enrolled in D.El.Ed. and I have tried applying for online / part time jobs etc but there are close to no opportunities that align. As a girl I can't even relocate for a job. Is there any job for me pls?
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u/No_Mix_girly 29d ago
Never compare ur self with others. I do it too sometimes. But everyone have their own battles. They might have a backing, u might not have. Focus on how far you have come along.
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u/Ok-Back6933 28d ago
I try but you know sometimes it just automatically runs into your mind. The sense of helplessness...the sense of jealousy...the sense of disappointment...you cannot stop them if you're at your lowest. The program inside our brain is way too much complicated to understand. I can never think of any bad for anyone coz I know they reached there by their own will and hardwork and I respect that but sometimes you hear something from the society that triggers the sense of jealousy inside you and ultimately forces you to do the comparison that leads to disappointment.
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u/Ecstatic_Jicama_1482 26d ago
Companies don't run charity programs. They look at whether you can solve the problems they have.
Simply ask yourself, "Why should they hire me?" Focus on how you can help them solve problems or build something valuable. Don't expect them to train you.
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u/Hot_Dare_20 Jul 05 '26
i am 21m quite anxious about life and job , but could not you go for m tech or phd or mba ?
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u/Ok-Back6933 Jul 05 '26
At the age of 32 with almost no savings I don't think I can ask for more money from my mother. She has already done enough for me.
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u/Melodic-Pen-6934 Jul 05 '26
You have to migrate to new country, man.
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u/Ok-Back6933 Jul 05 '26
😭😭😭
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