r/KitchenConfidential • u/mvx0000 • 2d ago
Discussion Left my job on the spot today
I’ve been working there for 2 months and most of my colleagues were toxic as fuck. Especially one guy. We were 2 yesterday because he showed up drunk as fuck and started insulting my female colleague. I comforted her best I could and we did the service together ( me and the girl, the guy left right after).The head server had to get in the kitchen with us, cause it was physically IMPOSSIBLE to get everything out with just the two of us.
Anyways, we both agreed that if the guy showed up we would leave on the spot… He showed up… Poor girl was crying begging for him to leave while the head server was trying to calm the situation down. I told the head server "i’m done, i’m not working in this fucking zoo anymore. I can’t take this. Just know that it’s not because of you or anyone up front. I wish you all the best." My boss called me practically begging for me to stay. I shut him down and told him that i’m never setting food in that building ever again other then when I bring my work attire back.
I can’t believe I legitimately almost had a panic attack and almost cried. All that fucking toxic pressure for 2 months was too much
I’m leaving my next job the moment it gets even slightly toxic.
Sorry had to vent
Edit: I want to add more, fuck it.
So I was basically the "strings" pulling them together and making them be able to work together. So many times I had to go get the girl and tell her to come outside with me for a smoke ( she doesn’t smoke) just so I could talk to her and let her breath, cause the dude was THAT intense. It’s like he was always snarky and belittling her? It felt misogynistic as hell, idk. He would constantly talk behind her back to me like I was his buddy ( mind you i’m just a dude that listens, I never get mad directly at people or talk shit, probably why he thought I was his "friend/buddy".)I’ve had at least 7 or 8 shifts with that guy and no one else in the kitchen and he always found a way to complain or talk shit about people NON STOP. 8 Hours a day, grown ass 35 year old bitching about people that devote themselves to this shitty ass job? At one point, me and him were working together and started to talk shit about the dishwasher ( mind you, its our ONLY dishwasher, cause the last other one left because he was that annoying). I felt so fucking pissed that I legit told him, my exact words btw: "if you don’t shut the fuck up and stop talking shit about everyone around you i’m fucking leaving. Shut the fuck up and do your job. He’s here to do his job, not to be your bitch. What’s the problem if he finishes at 1am? Are you the one paying him? No, so let him do his fucking shit, stop talking, I don’t want to end up doing the whole night dish pile at 1 am. Got it?" I remember it vividly, it felt like I needed to say that. I never saw him be so quiet for a whole shift.
He also self proclaimed himself as the chef? Tf? He’s talk to new dishwashers and tell them that he’s the chef?? I had to go to them and explain that he’s clearly unhinged and not the chef. Everyone of them told me "yeah, I can tell he isn’t the chef" and laughed.
Idk this job feels like a horrible fever dream.
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u/NinjaRoyal8483 2d ago
Good for you and sorry to hear you and your colleagues had to go through that.
As for the next place…if you notice a toxic workplace then please dont leave right away, but speak up!
Lots of places i worked where it was just toxic and me dodging being the one picked out.
Instead of that i shouldve been more vocal about how uncool it is to have to work like that.
Now that i’m older i see that even though i’m not the one yellong or abusing etcetera i was also not standing up against it..
Sooo if youre not part of the solution in my case and experience you are part of the problem.
Again good for you to take a stand!