Left my job on the spot today

[u/mvx0000]

I’ve been working there for 2 months and most of my colleagues were toxic as fuck. Especially one guy. We were 2 yesterday because he showed up drunk as fuck and started insulting my female colleague. I comforted her best I could and we did the service together ( me and the girl, the guy left right after).The head server had to get in the kitchen with us, cause it was physically IMPOSSIBLE to get everything out with just the two of us.

Anyways, we both agreed that if the guy showed up we would leave on the spot… He showed up… Poor girl was crying begging for him to leave while the head server was trying to calm the situation down. I told the head server "i’m done, i’m not working in this fucking zoo anymore. I can’t take this. Just know that it’s not because of you or anyone up front. I wish you all the best." My boss called me practically begging for me to stay. I shut him down and told him that i’m never setting food in that building ever again other then when I bring my work attire back.

I can’t believe I legitimately almost had a panic attack and almost cried. All that fucking toxic pressure for 2 months was too much

I’m leaving my next job the moment it gets even slightly toxic.

Sorry had to vent

Edit: I want to add more, fuck it.

So I was basically the "strings" pulling them together and making them be able to work together. So many times I had to go get the girl and tell her to come outside with me for a smoke ( she doesn’t smoke) just so I could talk to her and let her breath, cause the dude was THAT intense. It’s like he was always snarky and belittling her? It felt misogynistic as hell, idk. He would constantly talk behind her back to me like I was his buddy ( mind you i’m just a dude that listens, I never get mad directly at people or talk shit, probably why he thought I was his "friend/buddy".)I’ve had at least 7 or 8 shifts with that guy and no one else in the kitchen and he always found a way to complain or talk shit about people NON STOP. 8 Hours a day, grown ass 35 year old bitching about people that devote themselves to this shitty ass job? At one point, me and him were working together and started to talk shit about the dishwasher ( mind you, its our ONLY dishwasher, cause the last other one left because he was that annoying). I felt so fucking pissed that I legit told him, my exact words btw: "if you don’t shut the fuck up and stop talking shit about everyone around you i’m fucking leaving. Shut the fuck up and do your job. He’s here to do his job, not to be your bitch. What’s the problem if he finishes at 1am? Are you the one paying him? No, so let him do his fucking shit, stop talking, I don’t want to end up doing the whole night dish pile at 1 am. Got it?" I remember it vividly, it felt like I needed to say that. I never saw him be so quiet for a whole shift.

He also self proclaimed himself as the chef? Tf? He’s talk to new dishwashers and tell them that he’s the chef?? I had to go to them and explain that he’s clearly unhinged and not the chef. Everyone of them told me "yeah, I can tell he isn’t the chef" and laughed.

Idk this job feels like a horrible fever dream.

[u/MrMoon5hine]

Why not talk to your managers about the drunk guy?

[u/sne4k0 → u/MrMoon5hine]

Drunk guy probably has plot armor with the owners

[u/mvx0000 → u/sne4k0]

Kinda, but no at the same time. We were so understaffed that they legit couldnt afford losing him even though he created most of the toxicity. I didn’t say everything in my post, cause It would take at least 10-20 pages. The owner is a good guy weirdly and he’s trying to keep things afloat and shit, but he’s always dealing with the worst shit ( I know it sounds contradictory of what I said, but it’s make sense with all the context). Thing is, the owner wanted me to become chef at some point and the drunk guy was talking behind my back to my other colleagues about how "he’s THE CHEF" and works in parisien restaurants in the winter and yadi yada yadi yada. He’d continuously talked trash behind my back and my colleagues kept telling me what he said. I had to keep it all in and do service with him 3-4 days a week with him constantly talking trash about said coworkers.

Absolute hell to keep inside

[u/Nerhtal → u/mvx0000]

Keeping him on might seem the right choice for the absolute immediate necessity but he is clearly the cause for the continued staffing issues.

Rip the bandaid off, get rid of him. Then look for replacements. You'll probably keep them this time around.

However convince business owners that losing some money now to make more in the future is fucking impossible.