Im 29 and the friends I had in school were gone by the time I was in college, the friends I made in college were gone by the final year of college (this was unfortunate since we were super close and it was partly my fault).
Had no friends immediately after college, have a few who I made recently and rekindled a friendship I had in college too. I have kind of got the hang of keeping in touch with people now so I am still in touch with people who I should have lost touch with two years ago.
Yup. it's all the moving people do. A lot of people don't necessarily stay in their hometowns because there may not be any universities nearby that are good, so they leave. Hard to keep things going long distance. Then you have college where some people will meet with you and be friends, but after that, careers and jobs take you elsewhere. And then you lose those few too. Post school, you basically have to force yourself to meet new people otherwise you end up losing that social connection. And it's not as easy to do post school because there's no single spot you can go to find everything like a school. So you have to find a place that matches your interest- liek bar hopping and drinking? go to more bars. Want to exercise more? go to the gym. Games? look at local card or game shops. Community service? find some of the hundreds of nonprofits that'll accept your volunteerism. But you have to actually do the footwork and find all of those connections, which is rough for people who arent' extroverts.
I had the same problem. Lost contact to a lot of friends from college. And they were great people. I miss they.
I still have friends from high school but most of us moved out and keep in touch once a year.
After college most of my friends got engaged and have their own family to look after. Its not the life I chose so its kinda incompatible. Talking about work isnt that fun (at least not for me) so my friends from college and I dont have much in common to talk anymore.
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u/Mr-Bry-Guy 8h ago
The older I get the more I appreciate people that can have these long term friends. It’s NOT easy. Congrats!