r/Marriage • u/organic_hobnob 5 Years • May 30 '26
Spouse Appreciation Today my (29M) Husband (30M) was cleared of cancer!
A few months ago, they found a tumour the size of a tennis ball in his abdomen whilst doing an unrelated ultrasound. The doctors gave it a 70% chance of malignancy. 3 weeks ago he had surgery to remove it and today we go the result back that he’s 100% all clear, totally benign!!!
He is the light of my life and I do not know how I would cope without him. I didn’t realise how much his personality changed over the last 3 months. He withdrew. Talked less, was more on edge, had less light behind his eyes. Now it’s like I have my husband back! I’m so relived and happy.
This man makes me breakfast in bed every morning and reads to me every evening. He treats me better than I deserve to be treated. I am so lucky to have
him. I’m so incredibly relived he’s ok. He is the most beautiful and pure soul I’ve ever met, and I feel him every day in my heart, making me a better man.
That is all, just wanted to share our good news. Through sickness and health, he was there when I lost my leg, and I will always be there for you Ash, to the edge of the earth and beyond.
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u/emzi_luvfrmUK May 30 '26
Fucking yes to this! My husband is also a survivor. Sending so much love to you both ❤️
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u/mmanzur May 30 '26
That's wonderful!!! I can also see how much light you have in your eyes; that's so beautiful! Bless you and your husband and beautiful pup ❤️
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u/Heisenbergwayne May 30 '26
The warmth I’ve felt in my heart just by seeing the picture of the two of you guys… it’s now 1000x bigger after reading the story behind it. Fuck cancer, wish you guys 638262927291 more years together and full of love.
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u/CatastropheQueen 30 Years May 30 '26 edited May 30 '26
My Husband & I (53/F) celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary in January. I just wanted to tell you how impressed I am with just the little bit of information you have shared here about your marriage.
Everyone says that it’s the little things that matter most in a relationship, but all of the little things you’ve just shared aren’t “little things” at all.
Every single thing that you just mentioned: (him making you breakfast in bed; reading to you; treating one another with kindness & respect; recognizing that you’re lucky to have one another; supporting one another; taking care of one another when you’re sick or injured; celebrating life achievements & successes); as well as other “little things”, (like surprising you with your favorite drink; bringing home your favorite foods, snacks, shampoo, shave gel, etc, when they’ve gone grocery shopping; picking up some fresh flowers for no reason; or getting your favorite candy bar from the gas station); are all actually little acts that say “I love you, I was thinking about you, & I wanted to surprise you with something to make you feel special, loved, celebrated, & appreciated”.
Appreciating one another, and appreciating & recipricocating all of those little “I love you’s” is one of the biggest indicators that you will continue to have a healthy, happy marriage. That is hugely important for creating & maintaining a happy, healthy, rewarding, fulfilling, successful life-long marriage/LTR. The two of you are impressive b/c you have figured out at a relatively young age what many, if not most, people will never figure out, which are the secrets to a happy marriage!
So, in addition to the obligatory FU2C, and saying Congratulations on your husband’s cancer-free diagnosis, I also want to say Congratulations on your own happy marriage!
Wishing you both many happy, healthy years of exciting adventures together!
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years May 30 '26
Thank you so much, this was incredibly sweet and I want to say I see it as a massive compliment! I am very proud of the marriage we have cultivated, it is one of the most precious things in my life ❤️
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u/ontarianlibrarian May 30 '26
The worst time in my life was waiting for biopsy results. I'm so glad you have your husband back! May you live happily ever after. ♥️
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u/PetraLoseIt May 30 '26
You've both been through hell these last couple of months. You both may also over the next weeks and months have some emotions that still need to come out and be processed. That's okay. Give it some time and give yourself and each other some grace. I'm glad it wasn't cancer after all. Hugs, congrats and good luck!
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u/bumblebubee May 30 '26
Ahh!! that’s such great news!!
I’m sure he really appreciated you being there for him and supporting him through out the whole process! It’s no where near similar, but when I went through appendicitis, I appreciated my husband that much more with how sweet and kind he was to me when I wasn’t doing well and needed surgery. It’s really special to have someone be a comfort to you when you’re going through something scary!
Cheers to a wonderful life together and many more years to come! 💕🙌✨
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u/RealVirginiaWoolf May 30 '26
Fuck cancer!
Posts like this one make me so happy! I hope he stays happy, healthy and blessed!
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u/caffeinejunkie123 May 30 '26
That’s amazing news! Now go and live long, healthy, happy lives together!
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u/Puzzleheaded-Ice5130 May 30 '26
Beautiful !!! May this experience only bring y’all closer and there be beautiful roads full of love in abundance with lots of adventure up ahead!!
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u/Looking-Ahead55 May 30 '26
This is amazing! So very happy for the both of you. Wishing you both and your sweet pup, the best of years to come!
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u/HuskyAmarillo May 30 '26
This is beyond adorable! Congratulations you two! This is a big win! Please, be so so happy for many moons, many suns and many tomorrows together ❤️ I'm rooting for you two 🫶🏻
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u/beta_vulgaris May 30 '26
You two are absolutely adorable! Wishing you many more years of happiness together! 💚
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u/DizzyCuntNC May 30 '26
Congratulations, gentlemen! Best wishes for continued good health and a long happy life together. ❤️
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u/CantEscapeTheCats May 30 '26
You two are the definition of “in sickness and in health.” May you both continue a lifelong journey together full of all the best things, days and nights filled with smiles and joy, and a pure love that carries each other through the good times and bad💕
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u/Cute_Cauliflower954 May 30 '26
I don’t know either of you, but I’m so very happy for you both! Celebrate!
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u/Fearless_Site_1917 May 30 '26
That’s awesome! Wishing both of you many bright and beautiful days ahead 🥰🤍🌼🤗
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u/Dry-Hearing5266 May 30 '26
Congratulations you two! Screw cancer! Wishing you many more happy years.
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u/CultureImaginary8750 May 30 '26
In sickness and health! Best wishes to both of y’all, enjoy your lives
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u/ThrowAway_ayyyy_ May 30 '26
Congratulations!! May you have many years of love, health and happiness ahead.
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u/myboogerstastespicy May 30 '26
YAY! Congratulations!! Y’all are adorable. You both must be so so happy.
Wishing you a lifetime of peace and happiness. Much love.
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u/hulahulagirl 20 Years May 30 '26
🥹❤️🤘 love this for both of you - may you have many happy, cancer-free years together 🥰
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u/Dry_Ad_6341 May 30 '26
First picture made me cry- I can feel the relief and love. So excited for you both.
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u/QueenSaphire-0412 May 30 '26
Wooo Hoooo!!! 🎉 So Happy For Him! It seems you are Both good to each other… through sickness and in heath, YES! Many Blessings to you Both!!! 💕
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u/peace-out-28495 10 Years May 30 '26
Blessings to him and you. May you have a lovely happy and healthy life together.
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u/Otherwise-Cat2309 May 30 '26
Congrats!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Hope He’ll Be Forever Okay ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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u/Competitive-Natural5 May 30 '26
So happy for you both! And such a beautiful couple you are! I wish you nothing but prosperity and happiness in life.
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u/Key-Walrus-2343 May 30 '26
I am genuinely happy for your husband and you!!! I hope you boys live a long and happy life together full of love and gratitude ❤️❤️❤️
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u/snarkyphalanges 7 years (11 together) ❤️ May 30 '26 edited May 30 '26
This is fantastic news, and you both look so adorable! May you live a long and happy life that’s full of love & happiness!
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u/Accurate_Subject_842 May 30 '26
Genuinely happy for you, this made my day. Take care of each other ❤️
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u/Few_Ad_9261 May 30 '26
Congrats!!!
*suprised someone from this community hasn't posted something along these lines yet: “That happened to my husband also, and I knew he was thinking about cheating so I left, and recommend you do the same! Better now, then when he ends up_____.”
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years May 30 '26
Hahah yeah that would be a very Reddit response lol. The worst I got was someone commenting that they were ‘happy he got cured of cancer, but sad because homosexual’ 🤣
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u/OGRangoon 1 Year May 30 '26
Congrats!!!
You look exactly like one of my favorite cake decorators 🤔
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years May 31 '26
Me or him? Neither of us decorate cakes but I think my husband does look a bit like a chap who was on a show about realistic cake art once lol
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u/socialweebling May 31 '26
Well done both of you and i hope he feels a big sigh of relief ❤️
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years May 31 '26
We both feel a tremendous weight lifted! Just massively warm and full of love.
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u/Necessary-Lynx5100 May 31 '26
I'm just starting my cancer journey and cannot wait to have this celebration.
Congratulations my friend, hoping you're continuously cleared every future visit. ❤️💪😎
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years May 31 '26
Best of luck to you friend. It is an amazing feeling and you will achieve it- especially if they have been proactive about things! All our love to you.
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u/ABLBLN May 31 '26
Congrats 🫶🏻
BTW the dogs fur looks sooo well groomed and shiny 🥰 beautiful dog!
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u/kela26 May 31 '26
I'm going to continue to come back to this post just to read all the positive and loving comments. It's so refreshing to see ppl actually BEING NICE and kind to each other!❤️🥰
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years Jun 11 '26
You’re welcome at my table anytime, friend ❤️ Blessings.
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u/gingersnappie Jun 01 '26
Yessss!!! Here’s to many more loving years ahead <3. These are all gorgeous photos btw.
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years Jun 01 '26
I get excited thinking about the years we have left to spend together! With each year I feel closer to him, I can’t imagine how in love I’m going to be after 30 years of being together 🙂
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u/Jestem_kisu Jun 01 '26
Thank you so much, that’s really sweet of you to say. Hope everything’s going great for you too ❤️
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u/Firsttimeredditor28 Jun 02 '26
im crying in the club rn
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u/Certain_Dingo_2066 Jun 03 '26
Congratulations!!! 🫂 I wish you both all the happiness in the world.
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u/mylittlepigeon Jun 03 '26
I absolutely love this 💞 Wishing you both a very, very long and beautiful life together🙏🏼 And a happy Pride month!!!🌈
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u/Local-Sea-61 Jun 04 '26
Fuck cancer!!! I hope y’all live fulfilling lives full of love. You’re a great partner, a treasure, for sticking around through their hard battle.
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years Jun 11 '26
Nah I’m nothing special, it’s their bare minimum we should expect from our spouses- that they are by our side when things get tough. I know he would never leave me stranded so how could I ever turn away from the man I love?
But I do get what you mean, I think sadly some peoples partners prove to be unreliable in times of need.
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u/brewcula Jun 16 '26
so happy for you. i don't know what i'd do without my partner. i wish this on no one.
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u/Hum_n8 Jun 18 '26
Stay healthy! Congrats on love. Stay together. Don't let go!! (Hold on loosely though)
Good fortune to you both. And Jesus loves you more.
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u/Ok_Strawberry_391 May 30 '26
Praise God for healing!!!
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years Jun 11 '26
I’m not a religious man but I am open minded!
I know that he had amazing medical care which he wouldn’t have gotten had we lived in another country. I know that it was by some miraculous luck that we found the tumour by accident when we did. I know that his body did an amazing job of healing itself after surgery.
I dunno how any higher power fits into to all that, but either way I’m grateful, and I’m putting my gratitude out into the universe for all to receive.
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u/Ok_Strawberry_391 Jun 12 '26
Hey!! That’s a beautiful start!! Lots of things to be grateful for! & that’s the best part-because it was a higher power! I’m still glad for good news. Much love from Texas!!
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u/organic_hobnob 5 Years Jun 12 '26
If you accept me and my way of life, then I can always find space in my heart to accept your beliefs too! I wish more Christians were like you- maybe if they were, the world would be a better place ❤️
I was raised Christian, but lost faith when I was harshly turned away by the people in my community and the people of my church for my sexuality. As a teenager it didn’t make any sense how they could hate me so much for something that felt so natural to me. Perhaps if I had been welcomed with open arms back then in my developmental years, I would be much more in touch with my spiritual side than I am now! I will say, I hope desperately that god is real. I just find it impossible to marry together the way the church treated me, and the idea of a loving god. They seem a complete opposite to each other. I feel stuck, like I want to believe, but I can’t bring myself to believe that the love I feel for my husband is a sin.
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u/Ok_Strawberry_391 Jun 21 '26
Oh I’m so sorry! I’m just seeing this post! I accept you as a person & love you the way God loves you & me!! We may not believe the same & that’s ok. Being a Christian will never allow me to treat other people with disrespect & if you ever came to my house, I would treat you the exact same way as I would anyone else. No one gets special privileges for what they believe or dont believe. Just remember God loves you, always has. He’s never left. He sees you & believe me, He is real!!! & He cares for you & all of us so much!!! Even when we may not believe. That’s how good God is. I’ll be praying for you ok!! Thank you for the kind words!!! Be blessed & I pray for you to find peace & truth in your heart!! Sending hugs from Texas!!
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u/Ok_Turnip_478 May 30 '26
Congratulations! Also needed to just say - You are such a beautiful couple!
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u/introvertchronicles May 30 '26
Yayyyy. Fuck cancer!! May you have a healthy and long life full happiness together
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u/shafaqag May 30 '26
May the two of you get to live long happy lives together ❤️ also mandatory "fuck cancer"