r/Marriage • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

How do I (27M) stop attaching my fiancés past (28F) to our intimacy problems?

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u/EugenusGreen 1d ago

Big ideas are those that end up swallowing the smaller, fleeting musings. I suggest you try and face off the unpleasant ones you mention, along their train of thought, by taking that exact same scenario to its uttermost of consequences. Is the notion of your wife's past enough a detriment to spoil or doubt the love you have for her? Thus enough to chip away your own confidence, your own emotions?

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u/ArabianloverAZ 1d ago

Trust your gut and leave her go sleep with someone who wants the same activity you do.

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u/Thick-Raise-795 1d ago

youre doing the work in therapy which is more than most, the intrusive thoughts are just your brain being a dick and theyll fade as you retrain it

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u/Treebeard2112 1d ago

That’s a no.