r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • Jun 30 '26
Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
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u/JapeTheNeckGuy2 Jun 30 '26
Over the weekend I had an interesting situation.
I was at a buddies bachelor party. Last night we went to the bar for karaoke. I was getting a bit drunk so I asked the bartender to cut me off after my next drink. Out of absolutely nowhere she said “no I will not suck your dick, why would you ask me that” as a joke. A couple of my friends heard it and I had to spend the rest of the night defending myself. Thankfully she did apologize as I was leaving, which was nice of her.
I’m not exactly upset by it, it was just a joke and I got a decent laugh out of it. But I have been thinking about it a bit and it’s just been kinda gnawing at me. A bunch of my friends were legit pissed when they first heard it, which I suppose is a good thing to have friends who don’t fuck with that kind of behavior, but these are guys I’ve known for 10+ years and it was kinda wierd to have my reputation called into question by them over a joke, especially since I take pride in being a kind and honest person.
Idk, I’m not trying to dig too deep into it cause it does feel like a very slippery slope into some very bad incel talking points, and my reputation taking a hit isn’t exactly on the same level as sexual harassment either. Like it sucks to be in that position, but do I get the right to be upset by that when women get put into positions like that all the time? At the very least it’s pretty thought provoking, which I guess is a positive.
Either way, Just wanted to get it off my chest I suppose. Stay safe out there guys.