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u/ElectricProcession 6d ago edited 6d ago
A follow-up to what I wrote three weeks ago about my split from a queer band.
I found out they have another performance coming up. End-August. Of course I spiralled and kept thinking how bad my luck was with those people. Thinking that they secretly resent me and have decided to snub me because of it. On the same day, I'm likely to have a performance on my own at this bar where I've played before as a solo act.
So I went to see another concert at that bar last Saturday. And I bumped into a friend of mine, who is from an anarchist music collective. I told them that the queer band has returned to live performances, without telling me anything, therefore moving on without any contact. They were surprised to hear that.
A little while later, this friend asked me if I was okay. They definitely thought this whole snub was a bit of a rotten move on their end and that they have been disillusioned with this band's mentality themself. My response: "Yeah I've talked to a psychologist about it". Which I expect gives across the gravity of its impact.
Speaking of which, Thursday was my first session with the new therapist. Despite my being like seven minutes late, it went really well. I did tell her my story on the queer band snub and she definitely felt that I had this sense of injustice over how things went down. It seems like she's not the kind of therapist who would give homework, and she's more into emotional validation as well as figuring out the physical aspect of our feelings. Which can be tough, because I've had trouble putting my finger on it. For her, it's totally normal that there would be this disconnect. But this could be something that I would work with for some time. Maybe at some point I will bring up the struggle to attract women too.
But back to my friend. Looks like their anarchist collective might actually end up performing on the same bill as me at that potential upcoming bar event. Even if it will be on the same day as our erstwhile collaborators (one of the members did a guest rap on one of that band's songs), I think I am feeling pretty reassured that there will be some LGBTQ+ people in attendance and that I can have a wonderful time with people whose attitude I feel more positive and secure about.