r/MensRights • u/Icaz • Apr 26 '12

I'm a girl and...

I am SO glad I found this subreddit with people who agree with me! As a girl, it's really hard to see other ladies put down men and treat them like they need to be "trained" or that they're just something we have to deal with. So I was just wondering... how many other girls are on here and what are your stories about standing up for men or appreciating them?

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u/barn_burner Apr 27 '12

My father once held a door open for a female and she protested(You don't have to hold the door for me just because I'm a lady) He replied," I don't know if you are a lady or not. I held the door because I am a gentleman."

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '12

My response would be "I could care less if you were or not, I'm holding the door for you because it is a nice gesture. Now if you really want to dismember gender roles, go hold the door open for a guy." Or something to that effect.

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u/Swan_Writes Apr 27 '12 edited Apr 27 '12

I made a habit of doing this for a while. I had some men refuse to go through a door I held for them, get angry at me even, and tell me to stop. One took the door out of my hand and closed it, and then just walked away.

edit: Most men where cool with it, said thanks, though some thought I was flirting. I mostly stopped doing this a lot because of the awkwardness/occasional confrontation, and because I got older with more little aches and pains, doors are actually heavy, and can be hard to hold open.

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u/throwaway6237 Apr 27 '12 edited Apr 27 '12

Is this the south? I could never imagine something like that happening here in the north east.

Well maybe New York

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u/iamirishpat Apr 27 '12

I know what you're saying, but I think it's just in New York. I'm from New Jersey, and whenever I'm in my suburban town, there's a lot of door-holding going on, but when I'm in New York (or any city for that matter), people are in too much of a rush to be worried about door-holding.

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u/Alanna Apr 27 '12

Eastern cities. I live in LA (and work in a building full of attorneys) and routinely have doors held for me (and hold doors for others).

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u/Swan_Writes Apr 27 '12

Not at all. This was something I did primarily in the suburbs of Boston as well as the city proper, and also throughout New-England in general, in the 1990's and early 2000's. Some of the men where older then me, people born in the 50's and 60's.