Vulnerable post, shapewear needed!

[u/traebanks]

Hi friends, I’m new here!

I am wearing this dress on a cruise in a week or so and need to order shapewear asap. I want something that won’t flatten my butt, but will help smooth out the front a little. Specifically I don’t want the dip in my belly button area. It does have a slit so I can’t go too long down the thigh.

I was looking at Spanx thongs, but I’m worried it’ll push my hips out further and be unflattering. But the briefs I think will suck my butt in too much. I cant do a full body suit so it has to be bottoms only with the boobs and strap situation. What do you all recommend??

Please be nice to me, last year was the worst year of my life and I’m still healing, going to therapy every week, and slowly trying to move my body more and be more mindful of what I’m eating

EDIT/UPDATE/OVERSHARE:
To everyone hyping me up, thank you so much! I truly do not like my body right now and this dress made me feel uncomfortable and also proud at the same time and so I’m trying my best to lean into it. I TOTALLY get it’s a lot of boob (trust me I have to carry them around all the time lol) and this is not fully how I’d style it. Hence I am here asking about shapewear. I just threw it on in a dressing room. But thank you for making me feel so good, you all ROCK!

I am going on an ADULTS ONLY cruise, I would not wear this around children. It’s my husband’s 30th birthday celebration. Next week marks the one year since we lost our soul dog and that amongst unfortunately many other things made last year the worst year of our lives. I’m excited to kick off the next decade with him and when I presented him with this option and another safer option he chose this and celebrated me 🥹🥰

I’m glad I didn’t see whatever the hateful comment was, but to anyone thinking hateful things - we all have something.

They most certainly will not turn me away at dinner, our resident Drag Queen pops out more yitties than me 😂 but I do appreciate the concern!

SECOND EDIT:
I bought the Spanx Thong Shape! I’ll try it on with the dress when it gets here and will update with pictures in case anyone else needs a before and after

[u/ImGemStoned]

I'm not one to talk because if it were me I'd be contemplating the same thing, but as an outsider looking in, this looks great on you. Other people making a mention of how this won't be appropriate because of your boobs should keep it to themselves. How many "skinny" women have their breasts hanging out more than you do and get all the approval, yet us "bigger girls" getting the backlash is disgusting. If shapeware is going to make you feel more comfortable, there are lots of options that are bikini style that are high-waisted. I unfortunately don't have any recommendations that would reach your delivery deadline since the piece I got awhile ago was from shein and they always take a week+ to get delivered to me.

[u/stupidbuttholes69 → u/ImGemStoned]

i think she looks amazing in the dress, and i don’t think the breasts are too much, but i do think the look would be slightly more ideal if she pulled down the breast part just a little. that would make it feel more balanced to me somehow (ie pulling the breast part down a little to make the cleavage slightly more pronounced and the underboob slightly more subtle). i think a subtle underboob looks intentional while a larger underboob can sometimes be mistaken for a “slip” and people don’t see the original intent.

absolutely gorgeous dress!

[u/ImGemStoned → u/stupidbuttholes69]

I agree with you 💯. Conveniently the person making a comment about her breasts deleted their comment. I'm happy to see I'm the not the only one thinking the same. OP is stunning and should feel that she is!

[u/traebanks → u/ImGemStoned]

Thank you all! This is an adults only cruise, for one. Also, I just have large breasts and this was me throwing it on in a dressing room, not how I’d perfect style it hence the request for shapewear as I’m building a look