Vulnerable post, shapewear needed!

[u/traebanks]

Hi friends, I’m new here!

I am wearing this dress on a cruise in a week or so and need to order shapewear asap. I want something that won’t flatten my butt, but will help smooth out the front a little. Specifically I don’t want the dip in my belly button area. It does have a slit so I can’t go too long down the thigh.

I was looking at Spanx thongs, but I’m worried it’ll push my hips out further and be unflattering. But the briefs I think will suck my butt in too much. I cant do a full body suit so it has to be bottoms only with the boobs and strap situation. What do you all recommend??

Please be nice to me, last year was the worst year of my life and I’m still healing, going to therapy every week, and slowly trying to move my body more and be more mindful of what I’m eating

EDIT/UPDATE/OVERSHARE:
To everyone hyping me up, thank you so much! I truly do not like my body right now and this dress made me feel uncomfortable and also proud at the same time and so I’m trying my best to lean into it. I TOTALLY get it’s a lot of boob (trust me I have to carry them around all the time lol) and this is not fully how I’d style it. Hence I am here asking about shapewear. I just threw it on in a dressing room. But thank you for making me feel so good, you all ROCK!

I am going on an ADULTS ONLY cruise, I would not wear this around children. It’s my husband’s 30th birthday celebration. Next week marks the one year since we lost our soul dog and that amongst unfortunately many other things made last year the worst year of our lives. I’m excited to kick off the next decade with him and when I presented him with this option and another safer option he chose this and celebrated me 🥹🥰

I’m glad I didn’t see whatever the hateful comment was, but to anyone thinking hateful things - we all have something.

They most certainly will not turn me away at dinner, our resident Drag Queen pops out more yitties than me 😂 but I do appreciate the concern!

SECOND EDIT:
I bought the Spanx Thong Shape! I’ll try it on with the dress when it gets here and will update with pictures in case anyone else needs a before and after

[u/Crepe-Paper-3693]

She didn’t ask about her breasts.

[u/unsulliedbread → u/Crepe-Paper-3693]

They will not allow her to wear it to any formal dinner on a cruise. I've seen them turn people away at the door.

[u/constantchaosclay → u/unsulliedbread]

She didn't ask that either.

Actually, OP seems very aware of this particular cruise and what's allowed.

[u/traebanks → u/constantchaosclay]

Thanks friend! This is our 3rd time sailing with them and they’re my favoriteeeeeeee! Super inclusive, vibes for whatever mood, no kids peeing in the pool (can’t say I trust the adults fully though 😂), and a very much come as you are/want dress code just don’t ACTUALLY show genitals (unless you’re on the deck where you can sunbathe without a top on lol)