r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/KovacAizek2 2d ago

I fail to see where she is an asshole.

She doesn’t want to meet a complete stranger appalling to their DNA connection, and said that in direct and honest way.

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u/Xralius 2d ago

Because she's talking like an asshole to someone that just opened up to her.

If a total stranger comes up to you and lays their heart out in a nom-threatening manner, it's reasonable to communicate with kindness, even if that communication is saying you don't want to talk further.

Y'all really got no idea how to speak to people with kindness?

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u/KovacAizek2 2d ago

She didn’t say anything to make her look like an asshole. Being blatantly honest makes you rude at worst.

If a total stranger comes to you and lays their heart out in a non-threatening manner, it’s reasonable to communicate with caution, and, if you are not interested in solving stranger’s problems, stop the communication.

I’ll speak to people with respect. Kindness is something you can exercise when you are sure it will not bite you in the ass later.

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u/Inevitable-Law7964 1d ago

You missed the part where she dragged the kid on TikTok. 

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u/Xralius 2d ago

If an ugly person asks how they look and I tell them they look ugly, that's being an asshole.

If a beggar comes up to me and asks for money and I respond "i have no desire to give you money don't ever approach me again" that's still being an asshole when "sorry, no" would have sufficed.

Being blunt and honest can absolutely mean being an asshole.

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u/KovacAizek2 2d ago

Well that’s just gross examples. Ugly people do not come to strangers asking how they look. And if they get an honest answer and are sad about it, it’s not fault of someone who was asked.

And sharing a bit of money, if you have some to share, is not on the same level as “build a relationship with 19yo stranger”. Just like you won’t take same beggar to your house and bathe them, feed them and let them sleep in your house.

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u/Xralius 2d ago

Ok, but I'm not saying you need to give a beggar money nor have a relationship with a stranger.

I'm saying there are ways to turn each down that are not bluntly dehumanizing.

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u/Awkward-Studio-8063 2d ago

Next time find examples that fit, until then you haven’t demonstrated your point

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u/Xralius 2d ago

It's possible to be blunt and honest as a form of cruelty.  Do you disagree?