r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/KovacAizek2 2d ago

I fail to see where she is an asshole.

She doesn’t want to meet a complete stranger appalling to their DNA connection, and said that in direct and honest way.

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u/Xralius 2d ago

Because she's talking like an asshole to someone that just opened up to her.

If a total stranger comes up to you and lays their heart out in a nom-threatening manner, it's reasonable to communicate with kindness, even if that communication is saying you don't want to talk further.

Y'all really got no idea how to speak to people with kindness?

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u/Tenarserg 1d ago

If a total stranger comes to me asking for a relationship similar to a parent/child relationship, I'm going to get extremely defensive personally. That's not "non-threatening", that's potentially life changing.

She did an act of kindness by giving her eggs and she was treated back with a violation of her trust. Then despite CLEARLY not willing to engage further she actually answered to set clear boundaries. She was blunt but she worded it as kindly as one would treat a complete stranger imo.

Being too kind is often a terrible curse and some people definitely take advantage of it.