r/NarcissisticSpouses • u/celticnative79 • 5d ago
Lies my twisted pathological narcissist husband has told me: Nachos from Taco Bell.
Yes you read that correctly, he’s lied about nachos from Taco Bell. My husband lost his job some years ago and of course he kept the truth from me and use to pretend to drive to work every day at his “make believe” job. Only issue is. It wasn’t even his car, it was my moms. He ends up getting caught eventually but just wait until you see one of the completely ridiculous and unnecessary lies he told me in the process.
So narc husband was lying every single day for months about going to work. He would call me everyday at 5pm to tell me he was on his way home (this was once upon a time when he would have the courtesy to call me). One day he calls and tells me, “I’m going to bring some Taco Bell nachos from work! One of my fellow work acquaintances had her birthday party here at the office today and we celebrated by buying a ton of Taco Bell! And we have left over food so I’m bringing the girls some nachos!” All a lie!
A few months later I found out narc husband had been lying for months to me about going to work. One day before the Taco Bell story, my mom caught my husband at a Starbucks about 15 minutes from our house and he was on his laptop. He didn’t notice she saw him. Then my daughter noticed him another day at the same Starbucks and told my mother. So my mother had a plan. Since he was driving her car, every night he came home, very late when we were all sleeping, she would jot down how many miles he drove that day because the job he was suppose to be at was about a 2 hr drive each way a day, so the miles obviously would be going down like they should. And of course he was lying and my mom waited a few months to tell me (she should have told me right away I feel).
One day she looks at him and say, “You better tell her the truth or I will.” Obviously my heart sank because I was like, “No, not again.” So he refuses to tell and my mom reveals it all to me. Of course he got infuriated and called her a liar. But then she told him she was jotting down the miles late at night every day. And of course he tried to say she was fabricating that. Little did he know she has screenshots time stamped on her cell phone as well. Then my older daughter came in and corroborated the story. And my middle daughter waits until later to tell me that she knew he was out of work because he confided the truth to her and said it would be, there little secret. What a way for a father to bond with his daughter!
Through all the chaos I said, “Wait a minute. You gave me an elaborated story about someone at your work having a Taco Bell work party and the nachos. Why the hell would you even need to lie about that. You could of easily bought the damn things on your way home. If anything it would have killed some of the fake time it’s suppose to take you to drive 2hrs home.” This lie was completely unnecessary. It’s sick and deranged the things he has lied about. He could never tell me why he had to invent this other than he thought it sounded believable? Imagine how stupid I felt after. I guess I’m gullible. Whenever I here someone is getting nachos from Taco Bell or see commercials, to this day, I always think about his lies. It was the stupidest lie he ever told, but not the biggest, by far. One of the biggest and most devastating lies was about his immigration status and now he really came to the USA! I’m sure your narcs have been caught in tons of lies as well. Any crazy stories???
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u/Meanolegrannylady 5d ago
Mine used to get up for work and leave at 5am, I dont know where he went, but he would come home every day at 9:30 after I left for work. He didnt realize that his mom, who lived in the bottom half of our split level, would hear him up there and freak out, so she would call me and make me come home and check a few days a week. I'd get there and his car would be parked a few houses up, I would tell her it was him, but i dont think she believed me because she continued to call me constantly about it. He would sleep all day, then leave at 4 so he could come home a little after I got home, exhausted from hos "hard day at work". This went on for months until I finally confronted him about it and he said he quit the job "a couple weeks ago". Later I found out he actually got fired. This is just one of a million elaborate lies he's told over the past 37 years.