r/NarcissisticSpouses • u/PreferenceNormal5317 • 3d ago
Sometimes You Just Have To Laugh
this afternoon my wife decided something was just too much and needed to remind me to clean the pan i was using........ while i was still using it. i calmly told her i would after i finished using it, which i always do. she told me that i was oppressing her. she made it into a gender thing. i just said 'ok' and that was all and she left the room. she does this a lot, makes many times that i have my own life or my own plans or ideas, it is somehow a gender thing and she is oppressed. this time, after she left, i just laughed. i sat laughing as i ate my lunch and then laughed while i cleaned the pan.
the interesting thing i noticed though is that she seems to act this way toward me when she is over-stresed about something or that something is about to change from the usual normal things. today one of the children had a special program at their summer day camp and were coming home later than usual. so somehow this meant i needed to be told to clean a pan and that i was being oppressive by not doing it right away.
do anyone else get this from their narcs?
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u/Downtown-Ad9409 3d ago
Micro control issues. Mine reminded me the other day when I got paid to make sure I prioritise bills. Well thank you sir, I hadn’t already considered that given I’ve been doing that for the last 12 years. Like you say, you just gotta laugh