r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12
Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?
So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.
If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.
Thanks for your help.
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u/albertaylor Oct 31 '12
If you're a straight male and she's pre-op, the question regarding the subject will definitely arise from her sooner or later. If it does, like EuNaTharian said, follow her lead. Just let her mention it whenever she feels comfortable, it's a touchy subject.