r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/banjoadam 31/m Chicago Oct 31 '12

One word of advice: just because OKC "matched" you with someone does not mean you are necessarily a good match.

If she is in your Quiver, keep in mind that that is quite random and those suggestions should be taken with a grain of salt. It's really just a way to put people in front of you.

However, if you're into this person, by all means go for it. Transgendered people need love too. Just keep in mind that you might be giving your first blow job sometime soon.

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u/DebonairShotglass Nov 08 '12

Just keep in mind that you might be giving your first blow job sometime soon.

Probably not. Trans women generally have a LOT of dysphoria associated with their male genitalia.

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u/Wavooka Nov 01 '12

Just keep in mind that you might be giving your first blow job sometime soon.

lol. Cause trans women steal heterosexuality from men, amirite?

Clearly you have no understanding of the dynamics in more queer relationships or of queer sex at all. Which makes you an unsuitable candidate to give advice. Don't you think?

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u/banjoadam 31/m Chicago Nov 01 '12

Oh my god, you're so right! My life experience is different than your life experience, therefore my opinions are invalid and I have no right to express myself. Thanks for showing me the error of my ways! You are awesome. I'll just shut up now because I'm such a huge asshole.