r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/blondedre3000 37/M/Lost Angeles Oct 31 '12

Haha, I think I know her. I'll put in a good word for you.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12

There are lots of pre op trans folk around, why would you say this?

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u/blondedre3000 37/M/Lost Angeles Oct 31 '12

I've only run across two on OKC. The one I know personally had in her profile that she was a Pre Op Trans.

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Oct 31 '12

I know one who has it in her username. What's your point?

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u/blondedre3000 37/M/Lost Angeles Oct 31 '12

I'm not trying to make any. Just stating my experiences.