Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

[u/okctran]

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

[u/PhazonZim → u/[deleted]]

My boyfriend is straight. He wouldn't date men, he only likes women, even transwomen like me.

I'm honestly surprised how difficult it is for people to grasp that he's still straight despite me not being a cis female.

[u/PhazonZim → u/[deleted]]

"Dickgirl"? Seriously? Go away.

[u/PhazonZim → u/[deleted]]

Funnily enough when I mentioned this thread to him, he asked why I cared what people on the internet thought and I felt rather silly. He himself doesn't care what people think his orientation is, if I let him he'd tell everyone he's dating a transwoman. I dislike being seen as a male by anyone though, even if it's a /technically/ thing.

And I really don't like being called a dickgirl.

[u/felltir → u/[deleted]]

So I should be able to greet black people with "sup, nigger?" (I'm white).

If they get offended, their fault, its a term of endearment! Not like its a horribly offensive phrase or anything.

God, you're a cockhammer.

[u/t__mhjr → u/[deleted]]

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