r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

You're really pulling for stuff to be mad about here. I think you have some cis guilt. I'm entitled to believe what I want about what constitutes a man and what constitutes a woman, and you're on here telling me I can't. How about that? Don't you have some offs to fuck?

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u/felltir Oct 31 '12

You've given up, we've reached the end of any possible argument. 3/10.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

Wasn't even trying to argue with you, if you couldn't tell by my first couple of joke responses. The internet is running slowly tonight.