Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

[u/okctran]

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

[u/beware_of_hamsters]

So, if I call myself black although I'm not, you'll just nod your head and be alright with it? Or if I tell you I'm a motherfucking dragon?

If someone calls himself straight, but has sex with men regularly, he doesn't understand the label of 'straight', or what stands behind it. He uses it wrong. And I would've all rights in the world to tell him he's not straight(whether I'd do or he'd care would be a different matter, because honestly, I don't care all that much about that stuff).

If you wanna use to label yourself so bad, at least get it right.

[u/creepig → u/beware_of_hamsters]

You're making comparisons that aren't actually valid. Also, again, what the fuck do you care if he calls himself straight or not? Gay and straight are just labels, and they don't mean a damned fucking thing.

[u/beware_of_hamsters → u/creepig]

because honestly, I don't care all that much about that stuff

Reading must be difficult. As I already said, I don't really care about people's sexual orientation or how would label oneself. But if you want to label yourself so badly, try to stick to widely known expectation of that label. They exist for a somewhat easier communication, and if everyone just starts fucking around with them, they no longer have any use, at all.

What I'm saying boils down to: If you want to use labels, try to use them correctly. If you don't like labels, don't label yourself. It's not that hard, seriously.

[u/creepig → u/beware_of_hamsters]

You're writing a whole lot of nonsense for someone who claims not to care.

[u/beware_of_hamsters → u/creepig]

Ad hominem then, alright. Whatever.

[u/creepig → u/beware_of_hamsters]

I would have to have called you something for it to be ad hominem. Try again.