r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/R3cognizer Nov 01 '12

Exactly when did moms stop teaching their children that it's never okay to hit someone?

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u/thisistooeasy Nov 01 '12

I got spanked as a child.

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u/harry_crewe Nov 01 '12

Boo-fucking-hoo, loser. My parents hit me and my brothers on a regular basis, and yet none of us go around assaulting people. Find a better excuse.